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Post by unmatched on May 13, 2016 1:36:28 GMT -5
The TRUST that we would need to have to get things restarted (both the sex AND the intimacy) is just gone. I don't trust her. (This is especially crazy since I'm the one who outsourced...)Why is that crazy? Trust is not about knowing that someone will keep to an agreement. Trust is about knowing you can put your heart in her hands and that she will pay attention and do her best to nourish and look after it. Without something major changing in your lives, you would be mad to trust her right now.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2016 19:29:27 GMT -5
I start getting sexually anxious when a relationship gets too intimate. I far prefer arms-length sex....hard to get when you're married.
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 12, 2017 17:54:51 GMT -5
I have quite a lot of intimacy in my marriage. Problem is that this intimacy makes me want to have sex with my wife more! Certainly a lot more than what we do anyway. Yes of course libido has a part to play too.
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Post by rdp62 on May 29, 2017 11:42:18 GMT -5
A serious problem for me with C-PTSD lack of intimacy feels like rejection which causes flashbacks and worse, it's just vicious and brutal...
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Post by nolongerlonely on May 30, 2017 8:02:29 GMT -5
I started out thinking all I needed was sex. In the end I worked out it was the lack of intimacy/sharing/caring/loving that I missed the most, the sex is a wonderful by-product of it. Well for me anyway. Having neither, well it sucks, big time. Makes me feel extremely alone. I'm not sure I could enter into a physical only arrangement, I'd almost definitely develop feelings beyond physical. I must be extremely greedy. I dont want one without the other.
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Post by Venus Erotes on Jun 4, 2017 9:03:15 GMT -5
A serious problem for me with C-PTSD lack of intimacy feels like rejection which causes flashbacks and worse, it's just vicious and brutal... I hope you are seeing a therapist to deal with PTSD. I also deal with PTSD as does my BF. We both manage it with medication, and I add therapy to that as well. I wish BF was seeing a therapist regularly, but he hasn't figured that part out yet.
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 4, 2017 21:25:27 GMT -5
A serious problem for me with C-PTSD lack of intimacy feels like rejection which causes flashbacks and worse, it's just vicious and brutal... I hope you are seeing a therapist to deal with PTSD. I also deal with PTSD as does my BF. We both manage it with medication, and I add therapy to that as well. I wish BF was seeing a therapist regularly, but he hasn't figured that part out yet. C-PTSD is a bit different have been in weekly therapy and medications but it is overwhelming at times hundreds of attacks over years, several suicide attempts should not have survived still not sure going to make it much longer
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Post by Venus Erotes on Jun 5, 2017 20:08:44 GMT -5
I hope you are seeing a therapist to deal with PTSD. I also deal with PTSD as does my BF. We both manage it with medication, and I add therapy to that as well. I wish BF was seeing a therapist regularly, but he hasn't figured that part out yet. C-PTSD is a bit different have been in weekly therapy and medications but it is overwhelming at times hundreds of attacks over years, several suicide attempts should not have survived still not sure going to make it much longer Are you getting help with the VA? They are extremely good with combat PTSD. I assume that's what you are referring to. Please stay with us rdp62! You are a HERO!!!!! I am blessed to have made your acquaintance and I am so grateful for your service!
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Post by solodriver on Jun 5, 2017 23:04:47 GMT -5
I hope you are seeing a therapist to deal with PTSD. I also deal with PTSD as does my BF. We both manage it with medication, and I add therapy to that as well. I wish BF was seeing a therapist regularly, but he hasn't figured that part out yet. C-PTSD is a bit different have been in weekly therapy and medications but it is overwhelming at times hundreds of attacks over years, several suicide attempts should not have survived still not sure going to make it much longer rdp62 you deserve love and respect. You are a HERO! Please continue reaching out for help through your local and state Veterans Services. When it becomes too much, please call 911 to get emergency help. You have so much to give and share with others who need your help.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 8, 2017 23:35:17 GMT -5
When my wife thought I was having an affair, she did start putting out, but the sex sucked. Her heart and her head were not in it. That intimacy we are supposed to share as part of sex more important than the sex itself.
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Post by TMD on Jun 9, 2017 0:06:17 GMT -5
ironhamster, Healthy intimacy, in my experience, leads to very satisfactory sex, love making, etc.
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 10, 2017 15:09:38 GMT -5
Intimacy x1000
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