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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 19, 2017 16:16:17 GMT -5
Oh, also, games!! Board games, console, computer or role playing! I joined a cribbage group with a bunch if really nice people at my library when we still lived in Alaska. Fantastic group with so much interesting discussion. Miss that group. Dungeons and Dragons is also a lot of time and fun... And you get to role play and become whomever you choose, good stuff.. Would recommend I also sank far too much time into World of Warcraft... And I would be doing it right now if I weren't in college and had a toddler (maybe if she went to daycare...hmmm..) Or a board game group. We had a running group at our house. We would rotate games, each couple would bring a game they liked or something they wanted to try and we would spend a couple hours playing... Get some coals on, some beers open, great night to wear you out with laughter and companionship. Default was naturally Cards Against Humanity Okay, okay, I'm done... I will leave you alone I never got into Dungeons and Dragons but I've gotten majorly into Warhammer. Lots of time and focus on painting miniature models. You could spend a lifetime building a collection and have social activities to go with it. Ooooohhhhhhhh yessss!!!! Painting minis 😱😰😳so much fun. So much glorious patient time too... I wonder if I still have any that I could take picture of... Hmmm! To the depths of my closet!!!
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 19, 2017 16:54:27 GMT -5
I have never found that throwing myself into other things affected how I viewed or "managed" the emptiness of a SM. I do things that I enjoy because I enjoy them, not as a coping mechanism although I'm sure they ultimately reduce stress. Seriously, separate bedrooms works for me. When the kids were all away at College this past year, I spent about 60% of my nights in another bedroom. Wife didn't really seem to care and mentioned how well she slept..... ... it helps that I have the sex drive of a 50-year old. How sad is that. DON'T SAY IT LIKE THAT!!!! At fifty, the only thing I don't have is volume. I used to be able to fill a shot glass. Now, I doubt I could even wet the bottom of one, but, if I don't blow a nut every three days I get pretty ADHD. I have a kink friend that is our age, but, slowing down without help, so he is getting testosterone and a version of viagra to keep going, and has a vibrant sex life. Don't die easily, my friend. There is help for performance, and, plenty of ignored members of the opposite sex.
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Post by h on Jun 19, 2017 17:00:38 GMT -5
I never got into Dungeons and Dragons but I've gotten majorly into Warhammer. Lots of time and focus on painting miniature models. You could spend a lifetime building a collection and have social activities to go with it. Ooooohhhhhhhh yessss!!!! Painting minis 😱😰😳so much fun. So much glorious patient time too... I wonder if I still have any that I could take picture of... Hmmm! To the depths of my closet!!! To give a sense of scale, the bottom center figure is mounted on a square, 1 inch (25mm) base.
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 19, 2017 17:08:36 GMT -5
Ooooohhhhhhhh yessss!!!! Painting minis 😱😰😳so much fun. So much glorious patient time too... I wonder if I still have any that I could take picture of... Hmmm! To the depths of my closet!!! To give a sense of scale, the bottom center figure is mounted on a square, 1 inch (25mm) base. Those are awesome!!! I did a whole series of trolls and minotaurs, those were fun
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Post by h on Jun 19, 2017 17:11:53 GMT -5
To give a sense of scale, the bottom center figure is mounted on a square, 1 inch (25mm) base. Those are awesome!!! I did a whole series of trolls and minotaurs, those were fun I also do Lord of the Rings
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2017 17:13:54 GMT -5
You are all very good at this coping thing! Maybe I do need more diversions.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 19, 2017 17:16:39 GMT -5
You are all very good at this coping thing! Maybe I do need more diversions. Agreed. But I can tell you I won't be painting little mini figurines - I'd probably crush the damn things with how frustrated I am.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2017 17:17:47 GMT -5
I have never found that throwing myself into other things affected how I viewed or "managed" the emptiness of a SM. I do things that I enjoy because I enjoy them, not as a coping mechanism although I'm sure they ultimately reduce stress. Seriously, separate bedrooms works for me. When the kids were all away at College this past year, I spent about 60% of my nights in another bedroom. Wife didn't really seem to care and mentioned how well she slept..... ... it helps that I have the sex drive of a 50-year old. How sad is that. DON'T SAY IT LIKE THAT!!!! At fifty, the only thing I don't have is volume. I used to be able to fill a shot glass. Now, I doubt I could even wet the bottom of one, but, if I don't blow a nut every three days I get pretty ADHD. I have a kink friend that is our age, but, slowing down without help, so he is getting testosterone and a version of viagra to keep going, and has a vibrant sex life. Don't die easily, my friend. There is help for performance, and, plenty of ignored members of the opposite sex. Wish I had performance problems, that would at least put my somewhere closer on the scale to my wife. It's just that I don't take it to heart quite like I did 20 years ago. I decided to stay so have many other decisions that go with it, like letting go of the hope of a solution and letting go of the sex life I hoped to have.
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Post by h on Jun 19, 2017 17:18:11 GMT -5
You are all very good at this coping thing! Maybe I do need more diversions. Agreed. But I can tell you I won't be painting little mini figurines - I'd probably crush the damn things with how frustrated I am. My steady hand is helped by copious amounts of scotch.
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 19, 2017 17:21:25 GMT -5
You are all very good at this coping thing! Maybe I do need more diversions. There is a lot of happiness to be found in this life! You just have to find something that brings some passion out of you Also, masterbation helps... We all know there is lots of that hahaha😅😂 I sway in my interests a lot as I try new things. For example, I have a bag full of frolf gear that I have used twice in the last year, I also have a really nice bike from when we lived in a nice quiet town that I haven't rode but a dozen times in our new area (mostly because I am lazy and there are a lot of hills to pull a child up)... So I like to try lots of new things, which I guess is pretty consistent through out my entire life. Tldr; live your life and try something new
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Post by shamwow on Jun 19, 2017 17:22:50 GMT -5
Same here...substance abuse in my experience is a really poor way of coping... But after a while even alcoholism strangely looked attractive as something to distract. If you can maintain the right balance though, as long as it doesn't affect your job alcohol can be effective in dulling sex drive. Just enough to not have a hangover... Actually I had the hangover almost every day. But I did take enough Stims to block it out... At least until I built up enough tolerance to them that they stopped working... That was really bad.
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Post by h on Jun 19, 2017 17:48:31 GMT -5
If you can maintain the right balance though, as long as it doesn't affect your job alcohol can be effective in dulling sex drive. Just enough to not have a hangover... Actually I had the hangover almost every day. But I did take enough Stims to block it out... At least until I built up enough tolerance to them that they stopped working... That was really bad. I never get hangovers from the nightly drinking. Only when I go all out for a special occasion. Major league tolerance level (inherited trait that I have enhanced with years of practice).
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 19, 2017 18:02:13 GMT -5
DON'T SAY IT LIKE THAT!!!! At fifty, the only thing I don't have is volume. I used to be able to fill a shot glass. Now, I doubt I could even wet the bottom of one, but, if I don't blow a nut every three days I get pretty ADHD. I have a kink friend that is our age, but, slowing down without help, so he is getting testosterone and a version of viagra to keep going, and has a vibrant sex life. Don't die easily, my friend. There is help for performance, and, plenty of ignored members of the opposite sex. ... I decided to stay so have many other decisions that go with it, like letting go of the hope of a solution and letting go of the sex life I hoped to have. You're a braver man than me. I cannot accept my old reality as my future. If I were to go back to that, I'd be dead by Christmas.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 19, 2017 18:10:31 GMT -5
There's nothing brave about remaining in a shithole. It takes courage to leave and venture into the unknown. Giving up is not brave. It's defeat.
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Post by lyn on Jun 19, 2017 21:04:39 GMT -5
Those are awesome!!! I did a whole series of trolls and minotaurs, those were fun View AttachmentI also do Lord of the Rings Omg 😲. I LOVE these! Nice!
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