Update - My wife's mastectomy

Whether you believe it or not, I can relate. After my wife's mastectomy, she has been recovering very slowly. Two weeks after the mastectomy, she is still using the ventilator and the feeding tube. The staff at the rehab center have been trying to wean her off the vent, but she is too anxious. Every time they turn off the vent, she asks that it goes back on. She can't talk, so she mouths everything to me.

It's been extremely frustrating to me. After we found out the cancer was gone, we thought that her recovery would go smoothly. But right now, she is not as well off as she was before the surgery. The longer she stays on the vent, the harder it is for her to get off. Today marks three months she has been in the hospital or rehab. Today was especially frustrating, as she kept asking me to get the nurse just as the nurse left.

My worry now is that things will return to the way they were when she comes home - her not doing anything and expecting me to do it all. Since she has been gone, my son and I have gotten used to taking care of ourselves. I don't know if we will have the energy to take care of her too.