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Deleted Deleted Member Posts: 0	I am done...husband is not... May 3, 2016 22:36:26 GMT -5 Dan, DryCreek, and 3 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 22:36:26 GMT -5 Make an exit plan and don't wear Granny Panties.

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I am done...husband is not... May 3, 2016 22:39:04 GMT -5 mirrororchid likes this

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Post by curt on May 3, 2016 22:39:04 GMT -5

GG: I am a MWM and am in a near identical situation except all three children are grown and out of the home.

For around 5 years my marriage has been completely sexless. I have tried to understand my spouses reasons for never wanting sex and have questioned her on several occasions about it. It appears the issue is a weight gain of about twenty pounds in the time period mentioned. I told her I true did not care and that she was still as beautiful as ever and I desired no one else. I have remained physically and emotionally faithful during that time but damn I miss not so much the sex act, but rather the intimacy that it creates. I am not certain what else to say other than we are brave, if not known, companions of the same road. I hope we each find what we seek within the confines of our current relationships and give all diligence to pursuing EVERY POSSIBLE VENUE for help and healing of a once wonderful but now broken marriage. God Bless

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I am done...husband is not... May 4, 2016 1:18:15 GMT -5 tamara68, deleted, and 1 more like this

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Post by mathdoll on May 4, 2016 1:18:15 GMT -5

It's not unusual to develop that feeling of repulsion after years of refusal. I experienced the same thing with my ex husband. I still see him (because I feel guilty!) and I can't stand him hugging me. In fact physically I do not feel any attraction at all. It seems as if something switched off after years of living like a brother and sister or room mates.

deleted Full Member Posts: 246	I am done...husband is not... May 4, 2016 1:36:55 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by deleted on May 4, 2016 1:36:55 GMT -5 I can totally dig that feeling.

ggold Senior Members Posts: 864 Age Range: 51-55	I am done...husband is not... May 4, 2016 9:36:12 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ggold on May 4, 2016 9:36:12 GMT -5 May 3, 2016 22:36:26 GMT -5 @creelunion said: Make an exit plan and don't wear Granny Panties. I will definitely be working on exit plan soon. Granny panties...lol!! Not there yet!!! :-)

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week5of35years: My Wife had 30 free mins before she had to start work this AM... I said.. "lets have a quick shag" and she said she was going to walk the dog instead.... Still work to do.... Sept 17, 2024 3:51:34 GMT -5

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