Uncontested divorce - and how it will all "shake out" for me
May 14, 2017 4:09:49 GMT -5
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Post by merrygoround on May 14, 2017 4:09:49 GMT -5
So, went to have a meeting with the lawyer. Here in Spain for a no-fault, no-blame, uncontested divorce it is a very straightforward and simple process : from filing to end of marriage it can be a matter of weeks (perhaps 2 months maximum).
So, in order to make it as simple as possible, here will be my situation.
We have a joint property, we built it on land that he inherited. My name is on the deeds of the property - not the land though. That is a separate thing with laws here. Therefore value of our home, less the value of the land on which it stands.
After his mother's passing, he and his sibling inherited her property. And old house which needs major work and quite a substantial plot on which it stands.
The plan is to sell that property and hopefully his half will come near enough in value to half the value of our house.
We don't want upheaval for the kids - they are still studying and need a stable base whilst doing so. I will sign over the property to him and it will therefore belong to him and the kids (inheritance laws here).
I will also have no rights to his pension. There wont be alimony either. Fine. Not enough in the pot for that. Besides he has this home to run with the kids still coming and going.
My plan is to return to the uk , stay with parents for a while, look for work/study etc and hopefully in time create a base there. With the settlement. He's a bit pissed over the fact that his half of the inheritance will be more or less gone as he wanted to use some of it for more work on this place - but he has said he would like to be "fair".
Taking away the emotional side of it all - the main thing not seeing my kids every day as I have been since the day they were born (although they are young adults now), everything I've done to the property to create this home - my heart and soul has been put into this place - I'm actually thinking ok. If this is what it takes and now they are grown, I think I can deal with these cards I've been handed.
So, in order to make it as simple as possible, here will be my situation.
We have a joint property, we built it on land that he inherited. My name is on the deeds of the property - not the land though. That is a separate thing with laws here. Therefore value of our home, less the value of the land on which it stands.
After his mother's passing, he and his sibling inherited her property. And old house which needs major work and quite a substantial plot on which it stands.
The plan is to sell that property and hopefully his half will come near enough in value to half the value of our house.
We don't want upheaval for the kids - they are still studying and need a stable base whilst doing so. I will sign over the property to him and it will therefore belong to him and the kids (inheritance laws here).
I will also have no rights to his pension. There wont be alimony either. Fine. Not enough in the pot for that. Besides he has this home to run with the kids still coming and going.
My plan is to return to the uk , stay with parents for a while, look for work/study etc and hopefully in time create a base there. With the settlement. He's a bit pissed over the fact that his half of the inheritance will be more or less gone as he wanted to use some of it for more work on this place - but he has said he would like to be "fair".
Taking away the emotional side of it all - the main thing not seeing my kids every day as I have been since the day they were born (although they are young adults now), everything I've done to the property to create this home - my heart and soul has been put into this place - I'm actually thinking ok. If this is what it takes and now they are grown, I think I can deal with these cards I've been handed.
