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Post by darktippedrose on May 1, 2016 3:33:47 GMT -5
So I went to my first REAL counseling session. The one before this was just Q & A and history.
I've always thought my husband might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Sociopathic Tendencies. I told my counselor this. My counselor/Psych Dr. thinks he has Anti Social Personality Disorder. Aka - a Sociopath.
Wow.
Generally thats just a person who has a complete disregard for other people's thoughts and emotions. Manipulates them and controls them. Doesn't see them as people. Very little conscience; doesn't feel bad or guilty for transgression, etc.
It is very much LIKE my husband.
It felt really good to talk to someone who doesn't already know my husband. He knows what role to play and when, what to say and how to say to whom.
And Mr. Psyche completely understood this. He said that I'm very overwhelmed. That I was stuck and he understood why I'm staying. He says that this forum is VERY therapeutic for me and to keep it up.
It felt really good to get some perspective.
And to realize my husband is worse than I thought, lol.
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Post by compugeek on May 9, 2016 21:56:34 GMT -5
congrats; that's a tough first step. Tough to be under scrutiny when you're esteem is already bruised, but the affirmations that you're not crazy should at least help a little... #cheers to the start of a new path!
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Post by TMD on May 9, 2016 21:59:29 GMT -5
Wow darktippedrose . Must feel good to be validated by the Counselor. When is your next appointment? |
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Post by petrushka on May 9, 2016 22:07:59 GMT -5
I am so glad you went.
It's great that he seems to know his stuff, and it's also great that you're communicating with him
(i.e. listening and taking it in as well as talking)
As for your husband, I think he's not only a sociopath, I personally also think he's terminally confused
and hard of thinking ... harking back to his ISIS spiel - did you tell the counselor about that?
Apparently smart enough to manipulate people, though, going on what you've told us.
Hope this works out for you, in some positive way. -P.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2016 22:15:37 GMT -5
Good for you for being so proactive darktippedrose. Having an idea of what you're dealing with, from a diagnostic framework, will help you and your therapist, formulate a plan of action. We're here for you, brave lady. |
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2016 22:45:14 GMT -5
Did you tell the counselor that I didn't like your husband either?
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Post by darktippedrose on May 10, 2016 14:16:00 GMT -5
I am so glad you went. It's great that he seems to know his stuff, and it's also great that you're communicating with him (i.e. listening and taking it in as well as talking) As for your husband, I think he's not only a sociopath, I personally also think he's terminally confused and hard of thinking ... harking back to his ISIS spiel - did you tell the counselor about that? Apparently smart enough to manipulate people, though, going on what you've told us. Hope this works out for you, in some positive way. -P. I didn't say specifically that just that he's a bit of an extremist and views me as not being religious enough, etc. although, when my grandma was sick recently I went to visit her in the hospital. The WHOLE time he is talking about religion and politics. My grandma mentioned ISIS and my husband said that it was the "Islamic State". My husband conveniently ignores the fact that most muslims and most scholars lecture against them. Or that most of the people who have died at the hands of Isis, or in fact Muslims. He thinks its all lies. Hundred of towns destroyed. anyways, my grandma said she wanted me and my kidz taken care of. He looked her in the eye, lied to he and said " oh yes, they'll be taken care of" . seriously. ughhhhh. My grandma thought it was a very nice intellectual conversation, not realising he was messing with her head. |
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Post by darktippedrose on May 10, 2016 14:18:58 GMT -5
Wow darktippedrose . Must feel good to be validated by the Counselor. When is your next appointment? I'm going every two weeks. And yes, it feels good to know I'm not completely crazy. just like with my kidz. he blaimed it all on me, and then they were diagnosed with autism. I wasn't a bad mother. I wasn't a white mother who couldn't handle wild, black kids. they had autism. It wasn't all my fault. and now, its not me, its him. There is something seriously flawed with him and he takes it out on everyone else. its a little easier if I remind myself that he's sick. |
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Post by ggold on May 10, 2016 19:10:31 GMT -5
So I went to my first REAL counseling session. The one before this was just Q & A and history. I've always thought my husband might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Sociopathic Tendencies. I told my counselor this. My counselor/Psych Dr. thinks he has Anti Social Personality Disorder. Aka - a Sociopath. Wow. Generally thats just a person who has a complete disregard for other people's thoughts and emotions. Manipulates them and controls them. Doesn't see them as people. Very little conscience; doesn't feel bad or guilty for transgression, etc. It is very much LIKE my husband. It felt really good to talk to someone who doesn't already know my husband. He knows what role to play and when, what to say and how to say to whom. And Mr. Psyche completely understood this. He said that I'm very overwhelmed. That I was stuck and he understood why I'm staying. He says that this forum is VERY therapeutic for me and to keep it up. It felt really good to get some perspective. And to realize my husband is worse than I thought, lol. Good for you! Wishing you all the best! |
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