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Post by snowman12345 on Apr 28, 2016 19:24:39 GMT -5
Dan, here is a thought - she wants to have more time to "work on the marriage". Well why not do that instead of the nonsense conversation about switching or quitting her job? If working on the marriage is really what she wants to do why not start now?
I have to tell you my wife has made noises about spending more "quality" time with me. I said yeah, but you can't take time out of your candy crush schedule for me? Lots of silence for a very long time! LOL
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 28, 2016 21:25:58 GMT -5
Some good comments have spurred some thoughts...
"Work on the marriage" is nebulous. It's like saying "so I can get stuff done". How about starting with some concrete, specific ideas about how she intends to work on your marriage? While she's eager to use that as an excuse to change jobs, I'll wager that she hasn't *actually* put thought into the things she claims she will be doing.
Then ask why you can't start on them now. If they're such great ideas, you guys can certainly make time. if they prove to be effective, then hell, maybe it's worth the loss of income. How many times have we heard "If you want the promotion, start doing that level of work."
The pessimist in me says it's lip service. That when the time came, other "more important" things would preempt her from whatever she vaguely thought she would be working on. And a negative perspective says she's purposely playing your hot button to get what she wants, and has no intention of changing.
I suggest these ideas need to be clearly measurable, leaving little to subjectivity. No wiggle room for half-assed token attempts or spin-doctoring.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2016 22:29:09 GMT -5
I totally agree with both points. However, she is unlikely to see the "kindness" in the act of me forcing her hand (to stay in a job she finds too stressful) AND giving her the stress of a divorce and unmarried life. I just have to be amazed, once again, at these women who expect so much. I've never in my life had the nerve to insist on being financially supported by a man AND withhold sex at the same time. The only times I didn't have SOME income coming in, I was laid off from jobs - and during those times, I always made a serious effort to find a new job. But these wives, they don't want a stressful job. Some of them don't want a job at all. But, they also don't want any reduction in their lifestyle. And they don't want to have a sexual relationship with their husbands. What did I miss here, when I was learning how to be a woman? Did I skip school on the day they were teaching "How to demand everything and give nothing"? YES!! Where's feminism when we need it? I've had the "Career Change for Fun" conversation with my wife as well as passively suggesting retirement in 15 years, etc. She literally shits herself at the thought. Dan, you should tell your wife your considering opening a motorcycle shop or something. Let's see how interested she is in your personal fulfillment. BS!! |
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Post by snowman12345 on Apr 29, 2016 7:38:41 GMT -5
I just have to be amazed, once again, at these women who expect so much. I've never in my life had the nerve to insist on being financially supported by a man AND withhold sex at the same time. The only times I didn't have SOME income coming in, I was laid off from jobs - and during those times, I always made a serious effort to find a new job. But these wives, they don't want a stressful job. Some of them don't want a job at all. But, they also don't want any reduction in their lifestyle. And they don't want to have a sexual relationship with their husbands. What did I miss here, when I was learning how to be a woman? Did I skip school on the day they were teaching "How to demand everything and give nothing"? YES!! Where's feminism when we need it? I've had the "Career Change for Fun" conversation with my wife as well as passively suggesting retirement in 15 years, etc. She literally shits herself at the thought. Dan, you should tell your wife your considering opening a motorcycle shop or something. Let's see how interested she is in your personal fulfillment. BS!! Oh Creel, that is a fine argument! But I say use the "I want to open a bait shop down on the coast" scenario.
Dan: I think we should sell everything and move to the coast and open a bait shop.
Wife: Oh, we can't do that - what about MY new job? Besides, you don't know anything about bait!
Dan: I beg to differ, I am a Master Baiter! Thanks to you! Come on, the kids can sell coconuts by the road side and earn their college money. Don't you see how much less stressful it will be?
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