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Post by elynne on Mar 23, 2018 6:58:21 GMT -5
H hid my bicycle key from me once because I had left it in the bike lock while the bike was in our driveway. He also won’t tell me where he keeps the charger for the dog’s lamp for letting her out at night. It’s their childish way of infantilizing us and remaining in control. WTF, that is childish crap. That’s exactly what it is. Yesterday I went upstairs to spend time with our oldest child after she had an argument with her sister. Younger sister had gotten over it and come downstairs to cuddle on the couch. As I was walking to the stairs, h says “Be nice.” I stop. Turn around. Look him squarely in the eye. “Are you serious? Do you really feel the need to say that to me?” He replies, “Yes. Be nice.” I tell him, “First, saying that is unnecessary and deprecating. And second, you don’t have the right to tell me how to ‘be’.” Yet another example of him talking down to me. So fucking over it.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 23, 2018 8:49:12 GMT -5
WTF, that is childish crap. That’s exactly what it is. Yesterday I went upstairs to spend time with our oldest child after she had an argument with her sister. Younger sister had gotten over it and come downstairs to cuddle on the couch. As I was walking to the stairs, h says “Be nice.” I stop. Turn around. Look him squarely in the eye. “Are you serious? Do you really feel the need to say that to me?” He replies, “Yes. Be nice.” I tell him, “First, saying that is unnecessary and deprecating. And second, you don’t have the right to tell me how to ‘be’.” Yet another example of him talking down to me. So fucking over it. I went through the same humiliating manipulative control. I finally said " fine! YOU DO IT. IF MY WAY IS SO WRONG YOU HANDLE IT." just be ready, it's a two way street. The controller just gained more control over the kids, but lost control over YOU. In the end THIS is a big advantage in a divorce. After the divorce comes "my house my rules" including " my praise, my standards, my respect, and my joy!". The family will see the difference. And you can have the satisfaction of knowing that you gave them a better healthier foundation for their future and yours!
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2018 16:08:20 GMT -5
This has been brought up many times but I think it bears repeating. SM problems aren't about looks. When I was 30, I looked pretty darn good and was very fit - SM problems. When I was 40 - I was 20 lbs. overweight and a high functioning alcoholic - SM problems. Now I'm 51 and look...well...like a middle aged guy but I'm healthy, sober and happy - SM problems. This crap hits your self esteem hard but honestly it's not us. It took me forever to figure that out but once I did I was a much happier person.
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 7, 2018 19:34:09 GMT -5
May as well update since I’m feeling bold: I know I look kinda like a deer in headlights. 😂 Not normal, I assure you! But this is a very recent pic - taken today.
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Post by solodriver on Aug 7, 2018 20:48:50 GMT -5
Very beautiful mypaintbrushes Thanks for sharing
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 7, 2018 20:50:38 GMT -5
Very beautiful mypaintbrushes Thanks for sharing Thank you!
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Post by ihadalove on Aug 9, 2018 22:30:07 GMT -5
More proof of the insanity of refusers. Love the glasses style!
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 9, 2018 22:34:23 GMT -5
You are very beautiful! Love the glasses!
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 9, 2018 22:38:54 GMT -5
You are very beautiful! Love the glasses! Thank you. The glasses are only for computer work, but I think glasses look good on most people!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2018 7:42:05 GMT -5
mypaintbrushes the glasses give you a very Andrea Zuckerman quality to you. Very pretty! Yes I know I just outed myself as a viewer of 90210.
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Post by boudinMan on Aug 13, 2018 8:36:28 GMT -5
i'm a man of few words... wow! May as well update since I’m feeling bold: I know I look kinda like a deer in headlights. 😂 Not normal, I assure you! But this is a very recent pic - taken today.
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Post by warmways on Aug 18, 2018 13:42:49 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2018 11:31:53 GMT -5
I finally added eyes, plus a touch of grey.
I think I'm finally finished my avatar picture. Which may mean something.
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Post by warmways on Aug 21, 2018 9:19:00 GMT -5
How do you make the cartoon face the avatar?
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Post by warmways on Aug 21, 2018 9:20:40 GMT -5
I know I did it before obviously as evidence above but I’d love to update my avatar. Could someone walk me throug it like I’m a four year old. 🙂😆🧡🌈thank you.
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