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Post by thebaffledking on Jan 15, 2017 23:18:33 GMT -5
Ten years of unyielding, ceaseless, clawing tension! It has not left me for a decade. About 8 years of that were me just waiting for the next said-with-a-smile cruelty she'd dish out -- like a dog waiting to be hit with a stick, never knowing when it would come.........but after turning myself around a couple years ago, it became the tension of knowing for sure it was over and in creating an exit plan while waiting for the last to head off to college, and just the tension inherent in such a robust, life-changing announcement.
I sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo just want PEACE! I still remember 'fun', 'excitement', 'hope', 'peace', and all of those things, and I have missed them. Time to get them all back.
Moving to the launchpad!
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Post by wom360 on Jan 15, 2017 23:29:44 GMT -5
Weren't you going to end it? What's the delay now?
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Post by thebaffledking on Jan 15, 2017 23:32:40 GMT -5
None of your binness, wom. I'll go when I'm ready to go.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Jan 15, 2017 23:48:23 GMT -5
With that build, TBK, you ought to do just fine wresting your future from her grip.
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Post by thebaffledking on Jan 16, 2017 1:44:13 GMT -5
Thanks, lovely GeekGoddess. The one good thing that came out of this mess is that I got myself back into the gym about five years ago and go almost daily -- it's something to do and I get a lot of frustration out in there. And may I add that you look resplendent and quite fit in your new photo! It was hard to tell what you had goin' on under that yellow fishing coat and behind that muskie. Nice reveal! (-; |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Jan 16, 2017 23:15:27 GMT -5
Why thanks, thebaffledking. You do look quite fit yourself. The heart tie dye pic is nearly 2 yrs old but is way more current than the Muskie pic was. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 16, 2017 23:35:40 GMT -5
Ten years of unyielding, ceaseless, clawing tension! It has not left me for a decade. About 8 years of that were me just waiting for the next said-with-a-smile cruelty she'd dish out -- like a dog waiting to be hit with a stick, never knowing when it would come.........but after turning myself around a couple years ago, it became the tension of knowing for sure it was over and in creating an exit plan while waiting for the last to head off to college, and just the tension inherent in such a robust, life-changing announcement. I sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo just want PEACE! I still remember 'fun', 'excitement', 'hope', 'peace', and all of those things, and I have missed them. Time to get them all back. Moving to the launchpad! Just some food for thought about "the plan" Others warned me up front about "the college plan" and that my w. was just using me until then, and to be aware that she would drop me like a hot potato once the last child was gone. Several asked me, why are you waiting( I had to go through the, this is really happening to me stage first) That got me thinking about just how much longer can I really endure the charade, and who is it helping? Then came thoughts about, "do I really know how quickly a divorce will be? Or it may drag out for years? My 6 mo. is looking more like 18 mo. or longer. Continue to plan, keep it hidden, and gather as much financial info. as you can. If waiting means lower alimony payments, and no child support, than by all means use it! My case is the opposite. Mentally starting your own detachment, may tip your hand, but can be so worth it! It gives you a strong foundation, an advantage your W. won't have. Time to continue gaining ground, and finding your joy. |
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