Scene from a normal marriage
Aug 26, 2016 17:41:38 GMT -5
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Post by nyartgal on Aug 26, 2016 17:41:38 GMT -5
Occasionally I like to share a moment from a normal, non-Sexless marriage as a contrast to the insanity we have all suffered.
My husband and I had a baby son two weeks ago. His mom is staying with us to help out. She doesn't speak English so it's a little tough for my husband because he is her only conversation partner and she is a BIG talker, but generally it's great to have her here even though she can drive him crazy.
We decided to take advantage of the free babysitting and have a dinner out in the neighborhood after our 2.5 year old and newborn were asleep. But it was one of those hell bedtimes where my husband was out, my toddler was overtired and having a meltdown, the newborn was hungry and my MIL couldn't really help. Consequently, by the time my H got home I was super cranky and stressed, covered with milk and feeling the antithesis of sexy or even presentable.
Nonetheless, we went for dinner and vowed not to spend the whole time talking about babies and that stuff! Ordered some cocktails, ate some nice food, and had a relaxing fun couple hours. By the time we were walking back home a little tipsy we were stopping every block or so to kiss passionately---we both got very turned on even though I can't have sex for another month, but if I could have we would have been tearing each other's clothes off. It was so good to remember that we still have that magic, the attraction, the fire.
Having a difficult evening with the kids beforehand didn't prevent us from feeling sexy together, nor did being exhausted, me having a c-section two weeks ago, having his mother around, or anything else. If this had been in my former sexless marriage any of these things, or probably 20 other things that were completely unrelated would have been an excuse for my ex husband to push me away, not be interested, reject me, or make me feel unattractive.
Four years later I still find normal things like this remarkable! Sex is just part of life. Can you believe it??
My husband and I had a baby son two weeks ago. His mom is staying with us to help out. She doesn't speak English so it's a little tough for my husband because he is her only conversation partner and she is a BIG talker, but generally it's great to have her here even though she can drive him crazy.
We decided to take advantage of the free babysitting and have a dinner out in the neighborhood after our 2.5 year old and newborn were asleep. But it was one of those hell bedtimes where my husband was out, my toddler was overtired and having a meltdown, the newborn was hungry and my MIL couldn't really help. Consequently, by the time my H got home I was super cranky and stressed, covered with milk and feeling the antithesis of sexy or even presentable.
Nonetheless, we went for dinner and vowed not to spend the whole time talking about babies and that stuff! Ordered some cocktails, ate some nice food, and had a relaxing fun couple hours. By the time we were walking back home a little tipsy we were stopping every block or so to kiss passionately---we both got very turned on even though I can't have sex for another month, but if I could have we would have been tearing each other's clothes off. It was so good to remember that we still have that magic, the attraction, the fire.
Having a difficult evening with the kids beforehand didn't prevent us from feeling sexy together, nor did being exhausted, me having a c-section two weeks ago, having his mother around, or anything else. If this had been in my former sexless marriage any of these things, or probably 20 other things that were completely unrelated would have been an excuse for my ex husband to push me away, not be interested, reject me, or make me feel unattractive.
Four years later I still find normal things like this remarkable! Sex is just part of life. Can you believe it??
.....but I am enough of a realist that I know that growth for both of us comes not just from each other, but from interacting with all sorts of people! Family, friends, acquaintances, strangers.... Individually and as a couple. 
