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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2016 21:04:59 GMT -5
Well after some talk about still wanting and even having our exes, I'm curious how the rest of the group feels. Do you still desire your ex? As in sexually?
I expect some colorful answers.
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Post by cagedtiger on Aug 23, 2016 22:17:21 GMT -5
Is this our most recent, or can we factor back in previous ones as well?
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Post by wewbwb on Aug 23, 2016 22:26:00 GMT -5
No.
I will not put any part of me in the fridgeaire.
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Post by pfviento on Aug 23, 2016 23:42:32 GMT -5
I generally think it's a bad idea. You broke up with them for a reason.
Some of them are hard enough to get rid of without resetting their hopes of rekindling the firestorm.
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Post by petrushka on Aug 24, 2016 7:05:28 GMT -5
Define ex?
My first gf? No, not really. Considering her mind got destroyed by schizophrenia a year after we split. She's not the same person. And I have no idea where she is.
My first wife? Nope. I really would not want to revive that relationship beyond a 'formal' hug when we meet. A fearful prospect. Too much hurt, I'd never trust her again.
However, there are a number of former lovers whom I've never broken up with, just lost opportunity to meet up (and/or lost contact entirely) due to moving half way 'round the world - whom I would happily engage with again. What kind of ex is that? I don't know.
Then there is the not-ex, non-sex spouse. Yes, I would do the deed with her in a heartbeat should she show herself interested - we generally have a loving relationship. But I'm not expecting that to happen this century. I don't harbour resentment, and I no longer feel abused by her (as I used to), so - reconnecting erotically would definitely be very nice. Just not in a one person using the other as a passive receptacle kind of way.
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Post by petrushka on Aug 24, 2016 7:09:04 GMT -5
So for your poll you need option 6: yes, but it ain't happening. That would be my vote. Anyway, she's not even a stbx. But also the fireant one, w.r.t. exes who are exes.
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Post by baza on Aug 24, 2016 7:15:21 GMT -5
After a workout with Ms enna, I have no sap left in me for anyone else.
So I have not voted in the poll.
It's a moot point.
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Post by bballgirl on Aug 24, 2016 8:47:02 GMT -5
There was a time I was so angry if he were on fire I wouldn't even piss on him but to answer the question - a very enthusiastic HELL NO!!!!
I lost all sexual attraction for him the thought of it seemed incestuous to me.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Aug 24, 2016 8:58:32 GMT -5
An ex is an ex for a reason. No interest at all.
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Post by wewbwb on Aug 24, 2016 9:12:15 GMT -5
if he were on fire I wouldn't even piss on him I have used that line often. I first heard it as: "I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire and I was doing the pee-pee dance." |
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 24, 2016 9:17:39 GMT -5
lets see....words like;
Your talk is useless dribble.
I don"t know if i will ever be ready.
It would just be duty sex.
I don't see the need for it.
It's not that important to me.
What difference does it make?
I detached myself from you over two years ago.
I don't love you any more.
You don't fill my needs.
you are a less than helpful husband.
I'm exhausted.
I'm just an old fuddy duddy.
Children always come first.
Then the grand daddy of all. "call the police".
ugh...NO!!!
in fact I see her as repulsive, and never allowed to touch my body, ever again. Not even for medical purposes.
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 24, 2016 11:28:30 GMT -5
I haven't read all the old posts so I don't know if anyone else has posted about actually having had sex with their X spouse. I have been intimate with mine several times and hope to do so again in the future(actually the immediate future). She has any # of good qualities (and some really bad ones). But we remain close friends and I think it is in that vain that our coupling occurs. Is there any chance that this mating will lead to a renewal of the marriage mindset for us. I would give those odds as somewhere between a snowball lasting 24hrs. in hell and predicting the day and hour California slides into the Pacific.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:05:30 GMT -5
Although I still find him attractive - I wouldn't. Not unless I had an ironclad guarantee that he had turned back into the person he used to be.
And I don't believe that is possible. So, no. I've gotten to a point where I'm doing OK without him, and I don't want my heart to get all disrupted again.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:46:53 GMT -5
Is this our most recent, or can we factor back in previous ones as well? I was thinking the one with whom you suffered/suffer in a SM. But stories of exes from bygone days are always entertaining. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 13:48:40 GMT -5
Is this our most recent, or can we factor back in previous ones as well? I was thinking the one with whom you suffered/suffer in a SM. But stories of exes from bygone days are always entertaining. |
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