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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 19, 2016 8:58:29 GMT -5
Congratulations on moving from "W" to "STBX"! Hold onto your hat, it's probably going to be a bumpy ride. Your STBX reminds me a lot of mine - similar types of control issues, especially around money. Please, please, please listen to your attorney! Most of my mistakes during my divorce came from trying to be 'nice" and "cooperative." Just listen to your attorney and follow their advice - you'll save yourself a lot of grief. Thank you for that! Your words about following your attorney, are like gold to me. my STBX, she has had her sister to listen to. Even my STBX told me long ago, " I have told my sister to just take half and be done with it, but no, she wants more, thinks she deserves it". Her sister was left with very little, got the shaft. I feel like I finally went to the amusement park, bought my pass, and I am finally in line, for the ride that spins you around and the floor drops. The people in line in front of you have nothing to say. Then someone behind you starts talking about the ride, that's when you over hear," that was wild, glad I did it, I only threw up once!" |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2016 14:36:25 GMT -5
Congratulations, greatcoastal! To be sure, there are more hurdles ahead. But this is usually the biggest one for most people. Keep on doing what your lawyer tells you to do. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 19, 2016 20:19:29 GMT -5
Strap your seatbelt on and, prepare yourself for one hell-of a ride. Blunt, but very true. Just know.... There is light at the end of the tunnel. Been here and done it. Hugs -L Thank you Lexus! You were there for me in the beginning, and I appreciate it! |
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Post by warmways on Aug 20, 2016 12:43:29 GMT -5
All my best wishes that it goes as well as it can. We're all on your side.
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 22, 2016 17:01:26 GMT -5
For 4 months now I have been late for dinner on Sat. So I can volunteer at church ( and avoid my STBX). The other night I asked if there would be any left for me? I received a manipulative answer," it depends on how much every one eats". My response," I fix enough for everyone 5 nights a week, I fix a plate for you and any of the boys working. I set it aside, I do that for you!". This time her response was" I'll put some on a plate for you". Just an example of the way we serve each other and think about each other.
I received a phone call this evening from my STBX. " I won't be home for dinner I received my papers today, and I want to sit somewhere and have time to look it over,and digest it all". I said " okay, thanks for letting me know, so I know how much to prepare for dinner, see you tonight."
I later thought about the past year where I have agonized over our marriage, divorce, no sex, no love, detachment, mistrust, lack of respect, etc....while she seemed to not be bothered at all. Will she come to an understanding? Someday, I don't expect it for a long,long time.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2016 22:08:39 GMT -5
Congratulations greatcoastal, on beginning the process of moving forward. Wishing you the very best, and fair winds ahead. |
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Post by pfviento on Aug 23, 2016 17:36:25 GMT -5
Hope this goes smoothly but it sounds like you are prepared for whatever comes. Best of Luck.
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