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Post by thelostone on Nov 13, 2017 6:27:19 GMT -5
Thanks for your reply Tori, she doesn't act like it's a chore and I should be grateful for that. Yes it was fairly frequent before. Unfortunately we've had a matter of fact conversation and her decision is final, she doesn't want to get things fixed. She is scared about it and worried about the pain which nobody can blame her for that. If I push it any further she gets angry and just says it's never gonna happen.
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Post by thelostone on Nov 13, 2017 6:11:02 GMT -5
Yes, it is :-(
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Post by thelostone on Nov 13, 2017 4:33:15 GMT -5
Hello
I'm a 31 year old male, been married for 5 years. We have a 3 y/o daughter.
After the birth of our daughter we didn't have sex for quite sometime, one year perhaps. Then when sexual activity resumed my wife complained that it was painful. She went to her doctor and was diagnosed with dyspareunia due to skin bridging which requires an operation to resolve. She is scared at the prospect and declined the op. This caused arguments and in the end I dropped it and we've coasted along for the last 2 years.
It's been 2 years and we haven't had sex in that time. She does do oral sex on me regularly and I guess I should be grateful that's more than a lot of people here get. However she will not let me touch her intimately at all, she says she's worried it will lead to painful sex but I also think she just isn't that bothered.
This has really been getting me down and I raised the issue again recently. Again she is angry and says we will just have to live with it. After the trauma of child birth she says there is no way she is having anything else done down there.
My argument: She doesn't care enough about sex, or about the relationship, to get the problem resolved. If I could not have sex and needed an operation I'd be down the doctor's office tomorrow, no matter how scary.
Her argument: I'm a horrible bastard who is trying to force her into something against her will.
I'm at the end of my rope with this. Other than coast along for another 2 years and see what happens I don't know what else to do. Would appreciate maybe a female's perspective on this.
Thank you
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