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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 17, 2024 21:52:51 GMT -5
I am trying not to be horrified that her seven year old child perceives a priority to men is how a woman looks. My kids had better values at 7. No way do I believe a kid of seven said "to look good". More likely a fabrication serving as a segue. On the other hand, the list is so common sense, the kid might have written 1 through 3.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 7, 2024 16:35:13 GMT -5
Fornication
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 7, 2024 16:34:15 GMT -5
I agree that when anyone (adult or child) shows disrespect towards another person this needs to be called out. But if your wife wants her children to show her respect, she might want to consider showing some towards them. It’s not okay to purposely belittle anyone. Time away from the offspring may help your wife focus on the fact that it is a privilege of life to have them. Correct!! They are older and realize what respect is and how and when to give it. I have taught this to them at an early age through sports and other activities. I have returned home so I will not be in the eyes of the court as abandoning my kids or home. Me and wife are talking but it’s still one sided. She says I have not changed as in making the kids listen and examine there chores at hand. I tell her I have always inspected what I expected. Wife claims that cleaning should be a 8 hour process for one room. As she struggles with her time management's. I am not her father to show her how to do so but I do give her tips if asked. She finds yelling and raising her voice is the remedy. I told her if she would not complain so much and to put that much effort and thought into getting things done it would get done faster. She has not initiated once since the talk last summer. She is off and on the estrogen cream but still has discomfort as I have taken an easy on her with more oral and finger play. Not once has she initiated. 2 time in 23 years and 31 years of being together. Always hoped i could do better to make her want me and initiate. I’m such a fool. She is not interested in my feelings and keeps going back to hers. I told her she is not happy and she insists she is. I said she is maybe depressed and she again said she isn’t. I told her I was depressed and she told me I wasn’t😂 Gotta love the outright denial tactic. "We don't have sex." "Yes, we do." "No, we haven't had sex in over a year." "Yes, we have." "I remember where I put my penis, and it hasn't been inside you since the Clinton Administration." "You're wrong. Why are you lying about this and attacking me?"
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 20:13:32 GMT -5
Yes, sorry...biscuits. They had chocolate on them, and they were thin and crispy. Little bastards were delicious. Another co-worker from Scotland brought in homemade Scottish shortbread. That was even better! There you go, I rest my case. And coincidentally, I popped to Scotland over the Easter weekend as it’s not far from where I live. I had shortbread too, which was delicious. Is that messed with over there as well? I'm almost afraid to tell you I think US shortbread is a bit more flavorful...but that's not to say the Scottish shortbread wasn't amazing. Just not quite Lorna Doone amazing.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 17:42:42 GMT -5
I did eat cookies from the UK a few months ago via a co-worker, and they were absolutely delicious. I don't remember what they were, but I devoured them while being lectured for supporting Tottenham. Those would be biscuits. Did they have chocolate on or in them? That would explain it. Yes, sorry...biscuits. They had chocolate on them, and they were thin and crispy. Little bastards were delicious. Another co-worker from Scotland brought in homemade Scottish shortbread. That was even better!
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 17:03:29 GMT -5
Baby steps. It took me years to admit Kit Kats are shite. YOUR Kit Kats are shite. Mine are awesome. You got the sunshine, you can’t have everything. I did eat cookies from the UK a few months ago via a co-worker, and they were absolutely delicious. I don't remember what they were, but I devoured them while being lectured for supporting Tottenham.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 16:52:33 GMT -5
Let us speak more of sex clubs and filming and less about your blind hatred of US chocolate... I mostly jest, but not about Whatchamacallits. I'll put those toe-to-toe with any chocolate worldwide. Your chocolate is shite and you know it. All of it. Even the expensive stuff is dire. Baby steps. It took me years to admit Kit Kats are shite.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 16:41:28 GMT -5
Let us speak more of sex clubs and filming and less about your blind hatred of US chocolate... I mostly jest, but not about Whatchamacallits. I'll put those toe-to-toe with any chocolate worldwide. Having lived in Europe for 4 years I can confirm north American chocolate is garbage by comparison. Of course I'll still eat it. I'll die on my chocolate sword made of crispy rice and caramel.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 16:16:13 GMT -5
Back in the day this place was a boatload of fun. Sharp wit and a great place to be silly which is good for us all. There were suggestions of debauchery in Berlin sex clubs, filming kinky action and chocolate (that will be Euro chocolate not that swill in the US…). Amongst it all lots of compassion and understanding about the misery that is living in a SM. Great friendships were born from the silliness which has enriched my life and continue to do so. At its best is place is outstanding. Let us speak more of sex clubs and filming and less about your blind hatred of US chocolate... I mostly jest, but not about Whatchamacallits. I'll put those toe-to-toe with any chocolate worldwide.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 15:52:16 GMT -5
It’s nice to have some fun around here again. Harks back to the good old days. I haven’t quite given up hope that can be achieved again here. I agree. A little levity never hurt anyone.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 15:44:54 GMT -5
Ahhh...I deduced it meant something like that, but I could find no hard evidence. And I love the word "daft". I basically sit around and wait for an excuse to use it! And I love the word “junk” and sit around waiting for an excuse to use one. 😉 !!
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 15:40:09 GMT -5
I researched British slang and still can't find a suitable definition for the use of "nick" in this sentence...am I daft? 🤣🤣 it means in good shape. And who said you could appropriate “daft”? 🤣 Ahhh...I deduced it meant something like that, but I could find no hard evidence. And I love the word "daft". I basically sit around and wait for an excuse to use it!
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 15:36:03 GMT -5
Egad! Limbs were entangled, and even that wasn't enough to keep him awake... Nope, soapy, slippery and with wandering hands. The man is simply not fixable. And in case anyone is wondering, I am in decent nick and not some sort of oaf or something. I researched British slang and still can't find a suitable definition for the use of "nick" in this sentence...am I daft?
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 15:30:22 GMT -5
I was encouraged by another member to post here about what's happening in my life because others may find it helpful. I wanted to pay forward the benefit of what I got here when I found this board years ago when I was in a very dark and lonely place and trying to face what was happening in my marriage. I was hesitant to post because I anticipated some of the responses that I'm getting. Some have been very helpful, or at least supportive. But they are outweighed by those that are unhelpful and negative. Maybe some of you mean well, but your posts are coming across as angry and bitter. There's no compassion. No willingness to listen to my story and understand a different point of view or experience, or to consider that there are two decades of history between me and my husband and you might not be aware of every little detail. Instead, I'm told that my experience and perspective is wrong. What I've shared is dismissed. There's no conversation--just an airing of other peoples issues on my thread. I challenge you to consider whether you have treated your spouse that way, and think about whether that could have some impact on how your spouse interacts--or does not interact--with you. There has been discussion about the decline of this site. I concur that it's less active than in the past. There's also more judgment than what was present in the past. It doesn't feel like a safe space anymore where people can work through the painful experience that is living in a sexless marriage. I'm sad to find this to be true for myself, and I hope that there's still some value here for others. Before you put your words out into the world, please consider their impact. Your intent might be good, but it's the impact that matters most. I don't know if my posts are included, but I'll assume they are, since my responses today are much more direct than they used to be five or six years ago. Finally out of my SM, I hold more bitterness toward my former refuser than I ever did while I was in the relationship, mostly because of how it ended. This bleeds over to ANY refuser I hear about. My patience is less, my words more blunt. I've no time to not tell the truth because I lied so much during my marriage. I lied for a lifetime to myself and to others. This doesn't mean I lack compassion. On the contrary, I have all the compassion in the world for the refused, but nothing but contempt for refusers. Whether they are more polite than others, maybe, but they are all refusers, and that is betrayal. If you have had an otherwise great relationship for decades, then you are in an elevated situation compared to some in here, but you are still here. You have obviously treated him with the upmost care and respect throughout your relationship. And you are still here. And here is a safe space, even if people don't view your H with a measure of objectivity. Is it possible to co-exist in a SM with an agreement on FWB? I'm sure it can be, and if that's the missing piece in your life, I hope you find it.
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Post by deadzone75 on Apr 3, 2024 15:14:13 GMT -5
She showered with you and ignored your erection? Good Lord. What was the point of the shower if there was no action? It does seem that she showered with you because the counsellor told her that she should as she has agreed to it, rather than she wanted to. And her ignorance of your erection is as clear an expression of her disinterest in intimacy as it is possible to achieve. Soapy loveliness is such a joy, that woman is simply broken. And you are exceptionally patient to see the silver lining with all of that. I’d be super grumpy to put it mildly. In fairness to her, we had agreed in advance this was to build up comfort and there would be no touching below the waist. Although I was hoping that being soapy and naked together might stir up some arousal in her. How did you ever score with that woman? I swear, if I didn't know better, I'd say she just thawed from a block of ice, and you are trying to acclimate her to dicks and utensils because they frighten her.
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