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Post by solodriver on Feb 11, 2020 2:20:57 GMT -5
"If you can't be with the one you love honey, love the one you're with"
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Post by solodriver on Feb 9, 2020 1:38:17 GMT -5
Wish we could have one of the West Coast.
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Post by solodriver on Feb 2, 2020 22:25:24 GMT -5
Solodriver I'm open to forming a relationship with other women should the opportunity present itself. I do seek out male and female friends but if the female friends want more I could go for it. So far female friends only seem to want a generic friend. I don't push things out of concerns that me asking for more might make things awkward. I agree with you on this. Women who want to have a romantic relationship are not shy about it. I let the relationship develop naturally at whatever rate or limits it imposes. But I won't be pushy about it.
But I'm certainly not going to turn down someone's romantic interest in me.
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Post by solodriver on Feb 2, 2020 18:54:43 GMT -5
Brian, I gave up on wanting anything from my W. I go through life thinking I was single but still have things I need to do as if I was living with a prudish sister that would be very upset if I had a girlfriend. Giving up on hoping things will improve leads to fewer disappointments. I have developed interests that DO NOT include anything to do with my W. I have gotten to the point I don't want my W along when I go places or do things. It is difficult at first but now I rather do things alone, it is much more satisfying and peaceful.
This describes my life currently. But unlike others maybe, I'm open to forming a relationship with other women should the opportunity present itself.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 28, 2020 1:21:12 GMT -5
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Post by solodriver on Jan 17, 2020 21:07:23 GMT -5
Dear grower , one way of looking at ,2 months to 60,"as you move into a 55 and over community You are now one of the youngest men available on the market! And 'the market' is now in your favor . The ratio of available men vs women. You could look into 'practice dating'. Those are the kinds of thoughts that are keeping me going daily.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 16, 2020 21:35:44 GMT -5
1. The dogs 2. Herself 3. How smart she thinks she is
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Post by solodriver on Jan 12, 2020 23:51:08 GMT -5
Any updates to this choosinghappy?
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Post by solodriver on Jan 12, 2020 22:38:41 GMT -5
Man handy, you and I are living in a duel universe. That's exactly what's going on in my marriage. I think we must be brother-in-laws because you must be married to my wife's identical twin sister, lol.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 10, 2020 21:47:35 GMT -5
Stayed with a wife who didn't give a shit about me for 20 years, thinking that I would find the "magic button" to get back to where we once were.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 7, 2020 21:17:13 GMT -5
Yes, I'll accept mine in advance, because the opportunity hasn't happened to me.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 5, 2020 15:49:34 GMT -5
I have found the way to change my self-esteem is to "force" it. It's so easy to be negative because so much around me is. But I just have to force myself to be positive and do thing for me!
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Post by solodriver on Jan 4, 2020 21:39:56 GMT -5
A small towel does the trick for me... Back 20 years ago when we had sex, that was my wife's trick, put a towel down and remove it when finished. Worked sometimes, but others times not so well but that was ok. I would lay in it and she slept on the dry spot. I didn't care.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 4, 2020 0:28:19 GMT -5
I know I'm a guy but to me, wetter is better! I got no problem sleeping in it, except make sure you have a light blanket in case you get chilled. Sheets and bedding can always be changed for the next one.
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Post by solodriver on Dec 31, 2019 11:45:47 GMT -5
No, not really. Lusting after women remained 'controlled' due to the wedding ring on my hand. I was constantly around other women. Married women. Women with children my kids age and younger. Part of being Mr. stay at home dad/homeschooler/childcare volunteer for 20 yrs! But, the other part of this question,for me, was, had my standards plummeted for what I went after, after the divorce? I went through a period of needing affirmation that I actually was desirable? It wasn't too long with the help of this forum and a few dating experiences, that my long hidden belief was true. That my ex W is a bigger, not very attractive woman, physically and mentally ( her personality). I was always thin, physically fit and hardly showed my age. I also went through a transformation in the morals, standards, belief area, as to what I wanted and would accept. I made myself much more open minded. My close mindedness in the past got me 25 yrs of a SM! It took opposite land to open my eyes so I could have the confidence to feel worthy of women who also look like I do. And be told by many, that I am a sexy guy,and that many women that I like would be glad to be with me! I'm hoping for the same thing in my future. Thanks for sharing that it could happen.
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