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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 4, 2024 8:04:39 GMT -5
Yes, sorry...biscuits. They had chocolate on them, and they were thin and crispy. Little bastards were delicious. Another co-worker from Scotland brought in homemade Scottish shortbread. That was even better! There you go, I rest my case. And coincidentally, I popped to Scotland over the Easter weekend as it’s not far from where I live. I had shortbread too, which was delicious. Is that messed with over there as well? OK isthisit,...i have had enough of the insults to American cuisine. Scroll down the page to the post by csl and view the response of young british males who are now open to new American foods and flavors. These are foods found in the south( my world) in particular. And this is only the beginning. There is mashed potatoes and gravy, county styled steak, the list goes on. We have even created a piece of table ware specifically for gravy...the gravy boat.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 3, 2024 12:28:34 GMT -5
Today, we've checked in with each other. He's feeling shaken, and I suspect a little bit of fear. I'm feeling emotional and a little overwhelmed. We're okay. Rereading your old posts/themes and learning of you H's childhood trama. It seems dishonest of him to have entered into the marriage knowing he had a boatload of issues. But perhaps he has done as best he can and is to be commended for being a good father. You have had the talks with him and at this point he cannot function as a spouse in the intimay realm. So be it. You have been a long time working toward opening the marriage and his willingness to go along is commendable. I hope you are successful finding someone who fills the missing role toward your intimacy needs. Deadzone75 is spot on about this therapist. She is a useless as tits on a bore hog.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 2, 2024 9:50:28 GMT -5
I often wondered what these ladies who think forced celibacy is OK if they had this type of conversation with her girlfriends .....i know they don't ..... they do not claim to be asexual or just done unless ALL friends are the same .....unlikely. I know for a fact ......many women lie about how great things are after i had already heard the H version of sleeping as far away in house as he can and barely speaking to her...... Also single or women not getting any at home would be willing to make a FWB thing with spouses they know are starved of intimacy too .......... if they know M is a possible Friend ..... My X belonged to a soriety where 1/2 or more of the women were not married and a # of the other women were refusers. My X ask me "why couldn't I be like other husbands and learn to do without"? When she began refusing her soriety sisters reinforced her right to do with her body as she saw fit. I have never heard of any man speaking positively about refusing his wife sex. I also had sex with a # of married wives with whom I was friends. The long term friendship got me the invitation into their bed. Being the good friend that I was I never said no. When it comes to finding a FWB my thoughts are that a married female friend is likely to be a man's most likely success option.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 2, 2024 8:24:19 GMT -5
I don't think anyone applouds the demise of a marriage and the breakup of a family. In your situation taking some time apart may be in everones best interest. I believe you are right in staying in the home you are paying for along with the children. If she is unhappy with the currnet dynamics with the kids it is her responsibility to find a way to change them. Parenting is hard duty often. Take a look at how she and the kids interact. If the kids are disrespectful you should weigh in on her side.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 31, 2024 19:32:02 GMT -5
Waste not want not... repurposing rovers
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 30, 2024 17:50:49 GMT -5
Nooner
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 30, 2024 12:30:37 GMT -5
GC: I agree you've opened the door very wide for her to respond by CLEARLY showing interest. She hasn't done that. So, I agree, she's not a prospect for you. I wonder if her flirtatious behavior before was to try to stake a claim on you that would discourage women who really are interested in you and would otherwise make themselves obviously available. And this is one of the parts about women I do not understand. Why engage in flirtatious behavior if she isn't really interested Why stake a claim that you aren't going to work? It does seem to be a prevalent behavior for women in my age demographic on dating sites. I got a fair number of "likes" from women, but rarely does my follow up in returning a "like" or sending a message result in the woman engaging in meaningful conversation. I would just as soon not get a "like". I suppose it is just vanity on the part of the woman , seeking validation she is still attractive.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 29, 2024 9:37:10 GMT -5
If I were single I wouldn't say I was "done" with dating, I would take advantage and enjoy a friends with benefits type arrangement, but sometimes you want more than just sex. Sex is a big part of a relationship imo but to my eye things have changed a lot and everything , including dating, has gotten so much more complicated, more messy.....Or maybe ive just been out of the loop so long i dont know anything anymore Good luck on that FWB. My experience is that to have a FWB arrangement one usually needs to be below the age of 60. After that it seems the majority of women have little interest in intimacy. They are more interested in traveling with girlfriends on a really big boat in the middle of an empty ocean. BTDT., not for me. In the last 10 yrs.I have been fortunate to have a few women bless me with their favors, but only one relationship could have been described as a FWB. The others were just dates that ended with sex. I'm not complaining. But senor men who seek a FWB had best plan on a long expedition into the jungle. Just one man's experience.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 28, 2024 19:13:17 GMT -5
I am done with online dating. Both my subscriptions end this week. (POF, OurTime) But I got a like on OurTime today and opened the window. My liker was something less than attractive, but there mixed in with recommendations for me was a woman I recognised. Her new intro to her profile was a complaint that she was so disappointed in the men at the site. She actually lives close to me so I had messaged her about a month ago. Her reply was very vague so I ask if she found my profile of interest? She replied she was "just looking". So I replied if she had no interest I would not bother her again. And she never replied. And today it seems she is disappointed that males are not meeting her(likely unrealistic) expectations. Sounds more like Karma to me. As for me, it is back to pursueing live game.
UPDATE: Since dropping my membership from Our Time I have been getting 3 times the attention from the site that I was receiving. But the quality of the attention is no better than it was as an active member. Vertually all the women are far away and few are actually in my age demographic. They ask if I would recommend their site and offered a rating scale. I gave them a zero and said no to the recommendation.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 28, 2024 11:56:15 GMT -5
Kinky
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 28, 2024 11:55:51 GMT -5
Jelking
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 27, 2024 13:03:16 GMT -5
Homogeneous
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 26, 2024 8:05:01 GMT -5
As I've mentioned before there's "greysexual" where they decide to turn the switch on or off as they choose. Concerning women ( my ex W) they can turn it on hot and heavy to procreate then they're done. Forcing celibacy on you. Until the divorce,when their whole world is turned upside down,and their cozy reputation of a 'happy marriage' gets exposed! I'd like to know a % of how many (asexual/greysexual) turn the switch back on after the divorce,and how long it lasts? Something to be aware of when re-entering the dating pool . This possibility is one of the reasons I use messaging and 1st meets to establish a potential partners sexual state. If she hasn't had sex in years the red flags come into view. If she is honest and says she is done with sex then I am done with her. When dating after leaving a SM one really needs to establish that the dating relationship will not be celibate.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 26, 2024 4:57:46 GMT -5
Wait…is it not possible for a previously sexually active person to become asexual? I suspect this of my 67 year old wife.😳 I never meant to infer it wasn't possible for someone who was once a very sexual being to become asexual. That is pretty much exactly the case with my X. When the hormones go away so does the libido in most cases. Like ironhamster when I realized my libido had fallen off I had my hormones checked. Turns out I had very low testerone numbers. Once I started therapy the libido came roaring back. I talked to my then W about HRT but she was not interested. She had 2 close relatives die from overian cancer so she would not risk it. About 10yrs. later she had her one ovary removed.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 25, 2024 14:52:59 GMT -5
Nookie
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