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Post by darktippedrose on May 13, 2021 18:54:44 GMT -5
Darktippedrose, sometimes streamlining your life (giving up a few things) makes it easier to reach a goal. You have kids with special needs if I remember correctly, you have the divorce from someone that I consider uncaring of your situation and you have a university degree program to work on. I see the degree, the kids, and the divorce as taking priority to some other things. I don't want to see you having to take on some extra beliefs or problems. I want to see you succeed in the divorce, degree and kid areas. I only wish you the best outcomes and sometimes that requires putting things on the back burner. true enough I am trying to get my BS by the end of next year, and then hopefully on to grad school. I'll see how it goes.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 13, 2021 13:21:55 GMT -5
Lessingham A few years back I had my fortune read by a wicca witch.I can understand some people's "intuition" but things that can not be scientifically replicated do nor hold any validity for me. "Knock on wood" "good luck" "May the force be with you" all are cute sayings but not provable. What does work is doing the actual work to reach a goal, like an accounting degree, one class at a time and not letting superstitions interfere with a worthy goal. Real life is too complicated without adding things that do not have a scientific provable outcome. its about balance. I knew my son was low in my womb. But because i was early in my pregnancy, doctors and their science would not believe a word I had to say. Its about balance.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 12, 2021 0:25:27 GMT -5
Darktippedrose Point #1 It is good to hear that you are taking charge of your life. think my husband's girlfriend has been putting black magic on me. My husband and I haven't had sex for 8 years now.Point #2 Is there any way that you can get away from the idea of “black magic” actually working? I think it would lighten your mental load and be one less thing to think about. for #2, I am working with several witches to help me out with this one, to protect me and my kids. I have that area covered, hopefully. but the anxiety while going to school. And ..... eventually I'm going to move to another place because people keep on trying to break into my front porch/side door area and it can be incredibly scary.
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Update
May 12, 2021 0:14:39 GMT -5
Post by darktippedrose on May 12, 2021 0:14:39 GMT -5
Me too. Talking to a lawyer on Monday. Still trying to find other divorcees to chat with for realistic expectations and such.
Realistic expectations can vary hugely. At one end there's the lucky people like myself, who spent $350 on the lawyer, and gave my 1st wife $5000 as her half share of the tractor that her father bought for us as a wedding present - actually, that was everything he contributed since I had paid the other 5000, and she walked away and went trekking the Himalayas again - footloose and fancy free as she liked it.
On the other hand there's people like my former landlady here who's been pursued by her ex husband with vexatious lawsuits, stalking, damaging her car, her water meter, spraying her garden with weed killer for years now. Apparently the judges are by now aware of his shenanigans and he gets short shrift at the courthouse, but it's been constant worry and upset for her, she was worried for her safety as well, we had to go rescue her a couple of times when he had boxed her in in a friend's house.
All sorts of idiots out there. Your stbx may just react in similar ways, going on what I remember of his past character descriptions by you, and go down the harrassment route. Make sure you have a safety net of people who can have your back.
yes, its my thoughts too. I am considering my options.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 11, 2021 18:42:14 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmom. I know she was a loving presence in your life. I'm glad to hear you've gone back to school and have started the process of divorce filing. For me, I was so miserable in my marriage that divorce was a great relief. The hardest part was filling out and finding out the financial information. I had a friend help me with that as I've get very anxious when dealing with numbers and budgets. Please stay in touch with us. We can be a source of support. thank you! I will. Its been a crazy last two days with finding lawyers and help that I could and could not afford. craziness at its best.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 11, 2021 16:52:33 GMT -5
Hugz! I'm just starting the process myself. I hope it works out for you guys!
Rose, seriously?
Congratulations! I really hope it goes well for you.
Me too. Talking to a lawyer on Monday. Still trying to find other divorcees to chat with for realistic expectations and such.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 11, 2021 16:45:14 GMT -5
Good to hear an update from you. Thank you! So much has happened that last 1.5 years. It is truly insane.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 11, 2021 16:33:22 GMT -5
Hugz! I'm just starting the process myself. I hope it works out for you guys!
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Post by darktippedrose on May 11, 2021 16:02:14 GMT -5
If you'd ask me earlier, it would be less of what I want.
Since I'm making massive chances, I hope it would be more of what I want.
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Post by darktippedrose on May 11, 2021 15:59:56 GMT -5
I have made sooo many changes lately.
My grandma died on my birthday. In November I started going to Southern New Hampshire University for my BS in Accounting and Finance. I became interested in the Occult for healing. I've started doing shadow work and manifestation. I got Moldavite. And now .........
I just started the process of filing for a divorce. My anxiety is through the roof. I found out a woman, I think my husband's girlfriend has been putting black magic on me. My husband and I haven't had sex for 8 years now. I am so anxious. I just had a thought in my head "why wait" and now I am in contact with a group for people in my state with low-income who need help with legal matters.
Its exciting and terrifying.
Any advice from successful divorcees?
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Post by darktippedrose on Sept 4, 2020 14:53:12 GMT -5
i'm thinking of opening up a savings account so that my aunt can transfer my money easier and such. my aunt isn't super trustworthy with money but its my only choice as I might need that money one day to move to the UK.
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Post by darktippedrose on Sept 3, 2020 19:44:49 GMT -5
Well, will your aunt not help you? If you have no control it's not really your inheritance. she can help me but I don't like my husband seeing the exchange of money
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Post by darktippedrose on Sept 3, 2020 19:35:08 GMT -5
Have you spoken to an attorney, a domestic violence organization or an autism assistance program? no money for an attorney. my husband doesn't actually beat me and right now my kids get services through an organisation but they're issues are escalating.
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Post by darktippedrose on Sept 3, 2020 19:24:54 GMT -5
I have inheritance money but only my aunt has access to it. Which is good since my husband can't get his hands on it. I want emergency money I CAN get my hands on. And right now I pay everything but food.
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Post by darktippedrose on Sept 3, 2020 19:23:04 GMT -5
I separated from the bed when I was 29. I was sick and tired of crying myself to sleep. He wouldn't have sex with me. He refused me all the time. Said I was like an annoying cat or that I looked at his choopie like a starving Ethiopian. He hated it. It made him feel like a boy toy. So I decided that I'd sleep in my own bed when we moved. And .... he hasn't missed me since. he LOVES sleeping by himself while I love cuddles and other stuff. He thinks its too immature. If you ask him, he says he thought I'd never grow the F up. So yeah, I prefer it. That's cruel. You're still with him because.....? Because its hard to get divorced with 3 kids with autism. It might be easier when I have to put one or more in assisted living. And he'd never let me have the kids as thats what his ex-wife did. He won't let me. He just wants to win.
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