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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 16:17:39 GMT -5
This isn't the first time I thought about this....
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 15:56:51 GMT -5
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 9:55:57 GMT -5
I will say in defense of your husband, ( a very week little defense) learning to dance at a club or bar can be humiliating, and very uncomfortable. Having said that, I once went to a church that had a singles group, that had dances every month. I went to Arthur Murray for a year, 5days a week. I was the only young man there, it was very fun and did wonders for my confidence. The only problem seemed to be were else to go to dance? Mostly bar scenes with small dance floors and few people who knew how to dance. Which leads me to my STBX. I taught her how to dance, to follow my lead, timing rhythm ,etc.... She would never set foot in a bar. So dancing has fallen by the wayside for 24 yrs. I look forward to putting fresh grease on the chain again. Seeing if it truly is like riding a bike, you never forget. I will NOT defend her husband - I warn you - it's not like riding a bike (at least it wasn't for me) However, that really isn't the important part. The important part is this: I found this to be "mostly" true.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 9:43:07 GMT -5
GeekGoddess I found it helps to make lists. Here's mine.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 8:15:03 GMT -5
(Today's answer): I would say life hurts. I wouldn't change any of my actions, basically, because the level of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness I'm learning this year are really good/bonus growth things....all my past makes me who I am and I am, FINALLY, happy with who I am - so I think I wouldn't change a thing, to be honest. Like the character in It's A Wonderful Life - - it wouldn't, I wouldn't, be the same if things had happened different. So I think it all happened "just as it should" really. This was given to me as a tool. I Never forgot it and it changed my outlook. "How can I use this situation to improve?" And daily question I ask myself.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 7:13:19 GMT -5
Thank you too wewbwb ! you are awesome I really am. Thank you for noticing.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 7:01:16 GMT -5
Well please feel "affected" by these words as well.
You are strong. Smart. Brave. Talented. Kind. Loving. Joyful.
And a wonderful person.
Thank you for allowing us to know you and share with with you.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 6:28:36 GMT -5
Sunday is the fifteenth anniversary of the attacks on the World Trade Center, Pentagon, and Shanksville, Pennsylvania. My New York skyline was forever altered that day. I still cannot bring myself to visit the memorial. I lost three friends that day: one police officer, one security guard, who stayed at his post, and one office worker. I was also acquainted with several first responders who died afterwards helping with the clean up. Locally, every department in the neighboring seven towns sent fire, EMS, and police officers. This was mostly on a volunteer basis as they do not have dedicated fire or EMS personnel. My friend the office worker, was an administrative assistant, whom I knew through her husband (Mustang Boy.) They had a fight the night before. They never made up. It was stupid and wasn't important: just a normal marriage disagreement about things. They had time to work it out. Except they didn't. His last words to his wife were "we'll talk about this later." I believe Mustang Boy would have committed suicide if it weren't for their children. He continues therapy to this day. Please take a moment and show gratitude to the people you care about. Say, "thank you for being my friend." Call your parents and family. Forgive those you can. Tell someone you love them and you are glad they are in your life. Reach out to that friend you haven't spoken to in a while and say hello. You may not get to talk to them later. (I want to thank the person who helped me edit my scattered and rambling thoughts into a readable post)
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 3:39:28 GMT -5
Hello, you may all rest well.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 9, 2016 3:25:04 GMT -5
I love the Muppets
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 8, 2016 21:37:20 GMT -5
I can't explain it but I have this song in my head.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 8, 2016 20:08:31 GMT -5
It's amazing how much technology came out of the star trek tos.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 8, 2016 16:28:02 GMT -5
Welcome - I am sure that this isn't easy for you. I am going to assume that when you say "I am "getting it" from someone other than my husband." That that is a typo and you meant that you are NOT getting it from someone other than your H.
There is "female Viagra" - have you looked into this?
Have you gotten "handy" with him?
You are correct that most - if not all of us here cannot understand the lack of desire - the same way that you cannot feel the physical need we have for sex.
It is an integral part of us.
A physical need.
If you truely love your H - and all the evidence points that way- maybe look into it.
Try something different.
Thank you for sharing your side.
Welcome.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 8, 2016 16:06:25 GMT -5
I am just fucking saying.......
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 8, 2016 6:52:55 GMT -5
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