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Post by nyctos on Jan 5, 2020 17:58:12 GMT -5
Just a few pieces I found again while putting her clothes away after doing the laundry (in her drawer, not the wash). I've seen them before and know she's had them for years and years. There are times I just wish she were cheating on me, just so I knew one of us was getting something.
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Post by michael on Jan 5, 2020 18:39:48 GMT -5
I found lingerie in my wife closet too. She told me she bought them for herself and that she never worn them for me because I would just laugh at her. Sometimes her answers just donโt make sense. As if I would laugh. Iโd probably explode a load just seeing them worn right about now.
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Post by jim44444 on Jan 5, 2020 19:09:37 GMT -5
Lingerie can be visually stimulating if there is the possibility of it being removed. Oh hell, a muumuu can be visually stimulating if I know it can be removed for the thrill of naked play.
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Post by Handy on Jan 5, 2020 23:35:26 GMT -5
I hope there are women that don't need lingerie to feel sexy. A lose fitting cotton T-shirt I can get my hands under is good for me to get interested. Me touching her does wonders for me. Most of the time I don't understand the appeal of lingerie or heels.
Any women feel-think the same or similar way as I do?
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Post by lessingham on Jan 6, 2020 4:19:45 GMT -5
Men adore women. Men adore women in all sizes, shapes and ages. Men forgive the faults of their bodies, hell we did not even know what cellulite was. And in return women are haunted by body issues and fear of looking ridiculous. Hence the reluctance to dress up for men, in case we laugh. The fact we love lingerie is irrelevent it is how unconfident they feel that iscthe clincher.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2020 14:44:30 GMT -5
I tried buying her sexy underwear once. She threw them away after wearing them once at my prodding. Nothing ridiculous, just basic but a little sexy. Our honeymoon lingerie that she bought hung around in a drawer for years and then disappeared sometime in the 2000's. We didn't have sex our wedding night so I'm not sure why she kept them around.
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Post by Apocrypha on Jan 6, 2020 16:27:40 GMT -5
There are times I just wish she were cheating on me, just so I knew one of us was getting something. It's a sentiment I often hear. Having been one to discover my "celibate" wife actually WAS cheating on me, I can tell you that my experience of it was soul shattering on a scale that is hard to describe. The bottom drops out of the world and you not only question her, or whoever that person wearing her skin is - who feels like an imposter, but also yourself and everything you ever thought you knew about her, unraveling the whole sweater back to the beginning. Things like: "Was this the first time or first person she cheated with?" "Are these my children?" "How many of our mutual friends know, and haven't told me?" "Should I talk to OUR doctor and get checked for disease?" "What was planning for me/us as her next step, and how close is she to it?" "When she I think it's commonly said though - and so there must be something to it. I suspect it's likely that it's about giving oneself permission to not lie anymore about what the relationship is - an end to the mutual fiction. Catch an intimacy averse partner cheating, and it isn't possible to sell yourself the fiction anymore, that you are both engaged in the same enterprise. It likely means an end to it - horrible messy truth and catharsis - finally due attention in the proper scale to a problem that's likely been deferred and gaslit.
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Post by deadzone75 on Jan 8, 2020 1:57:37 GMT -5
Men adore women. Men adore women in all sizes, shapes and ages. Men forgive the faults of their bodies, hell we did not even know what cellulite was. And in return women are haunted by body issues and fear of looking ridiculous. Hence the reluctance to dress up for men, in case we laugh. The fact we love lingerie is irrelevent it is how unconfident they feel that iscthe clincher. There are many women who are beautiful and know it. My W doesn't avoid wearing lingerie because she is "haunted" by anything other than the prospect of it leading to sex with me.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 8, 2020 12:19:42 GMT -5
What is it with lingerie? I get told " well you want me to take it off. So I don't wear it anymore". This from my new partner in opposite land.
So, for Christmas I bought her some fishnet stockings. The kind that have no panties, and the upper waist hgh belt. They stay on the whole time!
My ex wore a red negligee for less than a month into the marriage, and used the "you just prefer me totally naked" manipulation to never wear anything (or act sexy) ever again. And to then come to bed completely dressed.
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Post by csl on Jan 8, 2020 12:49:26 GMT -5
My ex whore a red negligee for less than a month into the marriage, and used the "you just prefer me totally naked" manipulation to never wear anything (or act sexy) ever again. And to then come to bed completely dressed. um.... Freudian slip? (I know, some women wouldn't even wear a Freudian slip, right?)
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 8, 2020 13:00:22 GMT -5
My ex whore a red negligee for less than a month into the marriage, and used the "you just prefer me totally naked" manipulation to never wear anything (or act sexy) ever again. And to then come to bed completely dressed. um.... Freudian slip? (I know, some women wouldn't even wear a Freudian slip, right?) YES LOL! But a fun one! Now where's that spell check when you need it.
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Post by isthisit on Jan 8, 2020 13:29:27 GMT -5
Men adore women. Men adore women in all sizes, shapes and ages. Men forgive the faults of their bodies, hell we did not even know what cellulite was. And in return women are haunted by body issues and fear of looking ridiculous. Hence the reluctance to dress up for men, in case we laugh. The fact we love lingerie is irrelevent it is how unconfident they feel that iscthe clincher. There are many women who are beautiful and know it. My W doesn't avoid wearing lingerie because she is "haunted" by anything other than the prospect of it leading to sex with me. Fear not deadzone75 . I have lingerie which makes that stuff look like a burka. I believe the football season has finished.... for the Cowboys ๐. You on your way soon?
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Post by h on Jan 8, 2020 14:11:42 GMT -5
I think my W has some lingerie in the back of a drawer somewhere. I don't go in her clothes drawers so I don't know, but if they went into the drawer, then they never came back out. She's never really showed much interest in wearing it and I never cared if she did. No use in her wearing suggestive clothing unless we're actually going to have sex. She would have to be thinking about sex in advance for her to think about putting on lingerie and if she's thinking about it any length of time before we actually can, she won't be in the mood by the time we can. If I saw her put on lingerie, that would lead me to the conclusion that sex wasn't going to happen.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 8, 2020 14:20:55 GMT -5
We could curate an art exhibit of broken dreams in an SM. Photographs of: - Unworn lingerie. - A crisp, unopened copy of The Joy of Sex. - A past "use by" date box of condoms. -
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Post by deadzone75 on Jan 8, 2020 15:03:19 GMT -5
There are many women who are beautiful and know it. My W doesn't avoid wearing lingerie because she is "haunted" by anything other than the prospect of it leading to sex with me. Fear not deadzone75 . I have lingerie which makes that stuff look like a burka. I believe the football season has finished.... for the Cowboys ๐. You on your way soon? My curiosity is at a fever pitch ...and the only positive to the end of football season is that I am now free to jump across the pond!
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