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Post by tirefire on Dec 26, 2019 10:13:37 GMT -5
Are you doing more cardio, or more weights? If I did more cardio, my drive didn't increase, but more weights made it increase. I work out different muscle groups on different days and also do cardio twice a week. My sex drive dips if I have muscles pain especially in my legs. I also usually need 5-6 hours of sleep but if I workout every day I need 7-8 hours of sleep. I am working on my six pack hopefully will get it by summer. I don't know how old you are but I seem to remember that around 40 is the age where you should usually give your joints at least a day off in between lifting. My experience is that starting to lift was key to getting me out of my SM. It does all kinds of positive things for your body and mind. These days I look forward to my time at the gym and when I look in the mirror between sets, I am thinking about my hands on my woman's cute little hips. I can't help it. There is something about it that makes me feel so powerfully attracted to her. Grrrr. So for me, it definitely feeds my already strong attraction to her and makes me want to act on it. It definitely pushes me (mentally) to take a stronger role in bed which works for us. And I love the juxtaposition of my muscles against her beautifully soft curves. Sorry, I went a little off topic but two thumbs up from me for lifting.
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Post by workingonit on Dec 26, 2019 11:33:09 GMT -5
All opinions - points of view - observations etc are all welcome in here, wherever you are coming from. But like Brother csl notes, how is this an ILIASM ? Anyway, if physical exercise is lowering your sex drive and improving your mood, and this is a result you want, then it would seem you are on the right track. I am not sure if its ILIASM? What is the definition of ILIASM? Everyone has different needs and desires. Usually I do not exercise every day (3 times a week) and recently started exercising every day and noticed an interesting side effects. Its a lot easier to control my sexual desire and thought that I would share it with the forum. Unpopular opinion here perhaps but I am feeling the need to be super honest with you. I am on the addiction sub on Reddit (not for me but for supporting someone in my life). Generally it is people really struggling with heroin, meth, alcohol, etc. Often they are really at rock bottom, or celebrating that they have time sober, struggling to stay sober, etc. Sometimes, however, someone comes on and asks for support for something like "I am totally addicted to eating cheetos." Now, you can be addicted to any behavior if you feel like you are not able to stop it and it is negatively impacting your life. But being addicted to heroin and being addicted to eating cheetos is just a different ball of wax, ya know? There is always a sense that the heroin addicts kind of roll their eyes at the cheeto addicts. While you certainly have an issue in your marriage and your relationship needs work, attention, likely some therapy or weekend workshops, improved communication, etc you do sound like a bit of a cheeto addict on this board. Of course, keep posting. We are all here to learn and support each other.
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Post by workingonit on Dec 26, 2019 11:34:42 GMT -5
I work out different muscle groups on different days and also do cardio twice a week. My sex drive dips if I have muscles pain especially in my legs. I also usually need 5-6 hours of sleep but if I workout every day I need 7-8 hours of sleep. I am working on my six pack hopefully will get it by summer. I don't know how old you are but I seem to remember that around 40 is the age where you should usually give your joints at least a day off in between lifting. My experience is that starting to lift was key to getting me out of my SM. It does all kinds of positive things for your body and mind. These days I look forward to my time at the gym and when I look in the mirror between sets, I am thinking about my hands on my woman's cute little hips. I can't help it. There is something about it that makes me feel so powerfully attracted to her. Grrrr. So for me, it definitely feeds my already strong attraction to her and makes me want to act on it. It definitely pushes me (mentally) to take a stronger role in bed which works for us. And I love the juxtaposition of my muscles against her beautifully soft curves. Sorry, I went a little off topic but two thumbs up from me for lifting. I love hearing about your desire for our beloved sister choosinghappy ! You guys are an inspiration!
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Post by carl on Jan 8, 2020 15:44:29 GMT -5
I wouldn’t count your situation as a sexless marriage for obvious reasons. However your anxiety maybe that you are heading that way. In my opinion your attitude to sex is too mechanical and lacks diversity, kindness and love. Try Imagining being your women. It would be degrading.
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