Forced Acceptance Due To Failing Health Oct 23, 2019 12:01:41 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, Caris, and 2 more like this
Post by RealMustangGuy on Oct 23, 2019 12:01:41 GMT -5
Like many of you, I came from EP, which really saved me when I found the Sexless Marriage groups there. Without finding that and most importantly learning that I was not alone in dealing with a Sexless Marriage, I don't know how I would have made it. I joined here right after it was formed but had trouble figuring out how things work here. So I didn't do much and then stopped coming altogether. Recently, however, my depression over my Sexless Marriage hit me hard again and I came back and hope to become a better member here.
In my thread I'd like to talk about circumstances where leaving would be pretty awful to the refuser. My wife is seriously ill, and is declining health with a very certain outcome. I'll be free of my Sexless Marriage then, but there is no way to know whether that will be next month or five or more years from now. And I've been here in this spot for a long time now. The Sexless Marriage became a problem before the health decline. I should have left then, but I didn't know about Sexless Marriage and didn't know what to do. By the time I found EP and the Sexless Marriage groups there, the health decline of my wife had already begun. I am her sole caregiver. She cannot live on her own and cannot do most daily tasks by herself anymore. She can't drive anymore. She can't go to doctors by herself anymore. She can't cook anymore. So my leaving is not an option, as I could never be that horrible to anyone let alone the woman I married all those years ago.
Many of you would suggest finding an alternative such as sex outside of my marriage. I'm not that way by nature, but I'll admit I am only human and if an opportunity came along I am pretty sure I'd succumb to it. The pain and hunger is just too strong. I'm sure it wouldn't go well for the lady though as it's just been too long for me now. But there are no opportunities for that to happen and no way for me to go there so that alternative won't happen for me. I can't leave my wife alone and even going out to briefly buy groceries is difficult and hard on her.
I should have left long ago, but didn't. Now I'm stuck and waiting out my time, but I fear at my age by the time my chance for sex again comes I'll be too old. Too old to do it, and too old to find a lady who would welcome my advances. Sorry to sound so down. Normally I deal with my acceptance much better but lately I've been in that very dark place and so just wanted to try this post. Thank you all for listening.