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Lovethrob
Sept 29, 2019 12:28:58 GMT -5
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Post by tiredoftears on Sept 29, 2019 12:28:58 GMT -5
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Post by isthisit on Sept 29, 2019 13:14:57 GMT -5
‘Spontaneous scheduling’ there’s an oxymoron right there. Speaking of morons.... have have to admire the folks aiming to make a few bob out of this nonsense. I cannot imagine a text prompt being effective for my H or any of the refusers here, but good luck.
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 29, 2019 14:19:30 GMT -5
I never had to send a formal invitation to my then W to initiate. She was good at initiating every 3 months, regular as clockwork, rain or shine.
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Post by lessingham on Sept 30, 2019 3:19:52 GMT -5
The is a book called The Idle thoughts of an Idle Fellow. It is a set of whimsicle essays from the Edwardian era. One of the essays is on shyness. The writer talks of his shyness and how to cure it. He buys a booklet and gets the advice, adopt a pleasant and pleasing manner, especially towards ladies! He states shyness advice from the non shy is useless. The same with sexless marriage I think. The experts have no idea and offer useless advice like this random text generator. Really? Our sexless partners will be so impressed by computer driven random offers of sex they will rip our clothes off??? Just another desperate investment to be tossed into the back of the cupboard.
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Post by jim44444 on Oct 3, 2019 20:58:29 GMT -5
I think LoveThrob and other fixes for an SM are valid only if both parties are looking for a way to reignite their sex life. The problem we have is our partners do not have a desire to reignite our sex life. Their solution is to destroy our libido thus 'fixing' the SM.
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visexual
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Post by visexual on Oct 24, 2019 3:39:39 GMT -5
I agree with jim44444, it won't work when the spouse just isn't interested anymore. The last time I brought up the subject, about a year or so ago, she made it very clear she didn't even want to discuss it. In fact, se said it irritated her that I'd even hint about trying to do something about it.
Now that I think about it, over 7 years ago when she said that intercourse was just too painful and she didn't want to do that anymore, I suggested she talk to her doctor and she said it wasn't important enough to do that. Well, I guess it wasn't for her. At that moment I felt a lot of my love evaporate. It's just good that we're old enough friends, (almost 48 years) that I can overlook not loving her much anymore.
That just reminded me of something. Last February 14th she gave me something. I hadn't even considered getting her anything. I started to make an excuse but, instead, was just bluntly honest and told her that Valentine's Day was for lovers, in the verb tense. And that I just didn't want us to do that day anymore. She wasn't happy about it, but agreed.
That wasn't the first thing that we've changes since our intimacy has left the marriage.
We met on a blind date and, along with our wedding anniversary that year, celebrated the day we met each year. And we also celebrated the day, two days after, as our F'ing anniversary. About a year or two after our intimacy left the marriage, I told her that the F'ing anniversary was no longer enjoyable to even mention.
And how many of you find that small things that never annoyed you about your spouse when you were intimate with each other, now just piss you off?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2019 15:39:48 GMT -5
This is just the app version of various techniques that were part of my "why chasing" back in the day. It takes two to give a sh&^$t.
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Post by ScottDinTN on Nov 6, 2019 22:23:58 GMT -5
And how many of you find that small things that never annoyed you about your spouse when you were intimate with each other, now just piss you off? When we used to share a bedroom, I told my wife not to be walking around naked any more. For her to be naked and not let me touch her was like walking a starving man by an all-you-can-eat buffet but tell him he can't have any of it.
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Post by catsloveme on Nov 7, 2019 10:21:06 GMT -5
And how many of you find that small things that never annoyed you about your spouse when you were intimate with each other, now just piss you off? When we used to share a bedroom, I told my wife not to be walking around naked any more. For her to be naked and not let me touch her was like walking a starving man by an all-you-can-eat buffet but tell him he can't have any of it. I can undress in front of my husband and he doesn’t look. I was fresh out of the shower the other day. Put my foot up on the bed to put lotion on my legs. That garnered not even a sideways glance, let alone any attempt at touching me. It’s kind of weird. Like it doesn’t even register. I take a sort of perverse pleasure in being unclothed or partially clothed in front of him. Or wearing a new bra or underwear that make me feel good. Here’s what you’re missing, buddy. My body is far from perfect but it has some really good parts. Lol. Hmm. Guess I’m feeling a little catty this morning.
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Post by ScottDinTN on Nov 7, 2019 10:29:19 GMT -5
Wow! I'd be drooling and you would be late for work often. Lol
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 7, 2019 12:17:57 GMT -5
I take a sort of perverse pleasure in being unclothed or partially clothed in front of him. Or wearing a new bra or underwear that make me feel good. Here’s what you’re missing, buddy. My body is far from perfect but it has some really good parts. Lol. Hmm. Guess I’m feeling a little catty this morning. I suddenly have an urge to "pet the kitty".
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Post by Handy on Nov 7, 2019 12:24:38 GMT -5
Catsloveme
I can undress in front of my husband and he doesn’t look.
I quit looking on purpose because of all of the sexual negative things my W has said in the past. I used to be interested in looking a long time ago when she worked out a little bit. Now she lays on the couch most of the day and her legs have turned to lumpy jello. Pajamas look better.
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Post by isthisit on Nov 7, 2019 15:46:51 GMT -5
When we used to share a bedroom, I told my wife not to be walking around naked any more. For her to be naked and not let me touch her was like walking a starving man by an all-you-can-eat buffet but tell him he can't have any of it. I can undress in front of my husband and he doesn’t look. I was fresh out of the shower the other day. Put my foot up on the bed to put lotion on my legs. That garnered not even a sideways glance, let alone any attempt at touching me. It’s kind of weird. Like it doesn’t even register. I take a sort of perverse pleasure in being unclothed or partially clothed in front of him. Or wearing a new bra or underwear that make me feel good. Here’s what you’re missing, buddy. My body is far from perfect but it has some really good parts. Lol. Hmm. Guess I’m feeling a little catty this morning. Oh yes, back in my SM I could have written this. I’m not being pursued by Victoria’s Secret to be one of their angels admittedly, but I’m in pretty good nick, and did just the same in the bedroom hoping against hope to score even a sidewards glance. Nope, those motorbike magazines aren’t going to read themselves. To give H a nudge in the right direction when I still had hope that our M had something left worth saving, I suggested that it would be nice for me if he gave some clue that I was attractive to him by stealing a look at least. His response? The soul crushing “oh sorry, I will try to remember to look”. He was astonished when I called time on our marriage. Blindsided, astounded, shocked to the core. Yeah.
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Post by Handy on Nov 7, 2019 15:57:55 GMT -5
isthisit Nope, those motorbike magazines aren’t going to read themselves. That was a good laugh, the implied humor sarcasm on your part.
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Post by isthisit on Nov 7, 2019 16:36:01 GMT -5
isthisit Nope, those motorbike magazines aren’t going to read themselves. That was a good laugh, the implied humor sarcasm on your part. My pleasure! I am glad it raised a smile.
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