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Post by lessingham on Oct 11, 2019 8:48:08 GMT -5
Joined an online exercise club for arthritis. There were no real life groups near me hence cyber. So far so good and am down to 175 pounds as well.
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Post by Handy on Oct 11, 2019 19:30:15 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 12, 2019 8:23:47 GMT -5
Joined an online exercise club for arthritis. There were no real life groups near me hence cyber. So far so good and am down to 175 pounds as well. This along with your earlier posts indicates you are actively looking for and finding outlets to keep yourself occupied, and to conceivably find some new friends. This bodes well for you.
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Post by Handy on Oct 13, 2019 22:12:11 GMT -5
Fullmoon I just started my MA course...I am 59..
Best wishes regarding your studies and personal life.
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Post by thefullmoon on Oct 15, 2019 1:58:10 GMT -5
Fullmoon I just started my MA course...I am 59..Best wishes regarding your studies and personal life. Thank you! ❤
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Post by lessingham on Oct 16, 2019 8:53:35 GMT -5
Life in us old dogs yet!
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Post by catsloveme on Nov 3, 2019 15:35:20 GMT -5
I’m not sure how I missed this thread...
I joined a community concert band about ten years ago. I’ve made friends and really enjoy playing music in a group again. Rehearsals are on a weeknight and I sometimes feel reluctant or too tired to go, but I go anyway and I’m always happy that I did. It’s so nice to be greeted warmly by people who are happy to see me and want to know how my week has been.
I used to skip out on invitations if my husband didn’t want to go. I realized that I missed my family and friends. And I was missing out on things I wanted to do. Now I go anyway—solo. Or I ask my daughter to be my plus one.
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Post by Caris on Nov 10, 2019 18:48:28 GMT -5
I’m still working on that. It took a long time for me to even leave the house, but this year, I traveled to a foreign country, and even spent a few days on my own in a city where I didn’t speak the language, and my phone didn’t work most of the time, but I survived getting myself on a train and traveling to another city, and made it on the subway. It was a bit nerve wracking, not knowing the language, and I never knew a soul there. It felt lonely, but I survived, and eventually made it back home. I’d stepped way out of my security bubble, and that gave me confidence to do a few other things. I’m no social butterfly, and probably never will be, but I’m going through the process of what making some kind of life looks like for me. You find out what you like, and what you don’t like. I’d forgotten. Just try things that interest you, and start there. Good luck!
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Post by northstarmom on Nov 10, 2019 20:01:21 GMT -5
WTG, Caris, for leaving your comfort zone. You’ve evolved a great deal from the newly divorced woman who seldom left her house.
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Post by Handy on Nov 10, 2019 21:02:12 GMT -5
Caris I never knew a soul there. It felt lonely, but I survived, and eventually made it back home. I’d stepped way out of my security bubble, and that gave me confidence to do a few other things.
Congratulations on your adventures.
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Post by lessingham on Nov 11, 2019 3:53:01 GMT -5
Good for you, Caris. That took guts.
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Post by lessingham on Nov 14, 2019 4:44:45 GMT -5
I went to a tai chi lesson yesterday. It was a small drop in group and fun. I even chatted to the others! It felt good to be with people looking for health rather than staying home with my wife, who has now developed a bad back!!!
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 14, 2019 8:50:44 GMT -5
Your posts are getting better and better. As you reach out and extend your social activities I'm betting life will get better and better for you. You are doing what I should be doing more of. A good circle of friends or people that I interact with is something I am sorely lacking. As my grandkids grow up hopefully I won't be needed so much as a caregiver for them in the future. That might allow me some time to spend doing activities alongside other adults. Riding my motorcycle provides some mind therapy, but it is essentially a solitary activity, even if others are riding with me in a group.
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Post by lessingham on Nov 14, 2019 9:49:56 GMT -5
As Dylan Thomas said, do not go gently into the night, rage, rage against the passing of the light.
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Post by northstarmom on Nov 14, 2019 15:17:47 GMT -5
Worksforme said: “ As my grandkids grow up hopefully I won't be needed so much as a caregiver for them in the future. ”
Is there a reason your grandkids can’t be cared for more by babysitters or other relatives! The friends I have who pursue their own interests despite having grandkids nearby make sure to carve out time for themselves and not get into the habit of babysitting at a moment’s notice. They also seem to be more appreciated by their kids.
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