Post by timedelay on Sept 13, 2019 13:26:14 GMT -5
workingonit I know this one well. To measure sexlessness in decades is like joining an inner circle of the club no one wants to be a part of. It's crap but know that you're not alone. Hope you're feeling more optimistic about a sex filled future now?
I used to do endless calculations, the total number of sex acts in an average marriage times years versus our sex life. I resented the "owed" sex acts. I would tick the sexless days on the calendar and so on. But in the end it becomes pointless. I an never going to get the past back and whether it has been a week, a month or a year she never builds up a head of sexual pressure as I do. In the end we all return to the implacable advice of Baza, poop or get off the pot.
It is pointless as a form of argument to a spouse - as if to show a ledger owing. For me, it was invaluable in helping me get my head around the scale of the aversion, and also the damage it was likely doing (and that still lingers today). I looked at it and realized the ratio of my "bids" for nooky, to what was granted, was well over a 100 "no thanks" to every 1 "why not?".
While I took a long and winding road, this little project prevented me from deluding myself about who desired whom, and who didn't.
frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatable
Aug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tomorrow is Labor Day 2019, no big plans for the day....thinking seriously of going commando
Sept 1, 2019 11:37:07 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey ironhamster...I just saw your picture on another site and your head wasn't covered. You actually look better without the bandana....
Sept 2, 2019 11:54:55 GMT -5
javba: Dunno Iron Hamster - I have not seen your other photo - I think you ROCK anyways.
Sept 4, 2019 10:11:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happened across Tamara68 on another site, messaged her but she didn't respond...
Sept 15, 2019 13:13:02 GMT -5
elkclan2: Dealing with an escaped gerbil. Fun times.
Sept 16, 2019 13:01:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: 1. Hope tamara is doing well. 2. Elkclan2, did you catch the critter???
Sept 17, 2019 15:40:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Tamara answered me yesterday. She and her partner are moving into a house next week. It's probably about as good as is possible. She didn't comment on the situation with her daughter.
Sept 17, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thanks for the update; just hope she is happy
Sept 17, 2019 19:49:55 GMT -5
workingonit: Elkclan2 my son's gerbil escaped at the same time as his pet snake. I did not think it was a coincidence!
Sept 17, 2019 20:40:26 GMT -5
hopingforachange: Wow, is been forever since I read the shoutbox.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:01 GMT -5
hopingforachange: I need to set up another Skype session.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:16 GMT -5
sme935: Not quite sure if anyone reads it but if there is a female in the Chicago area (40-60 years old) who is interested in chatting with me drop me a message or look at my profile for messenger screenname;
Sept 19, 2019 9:09:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Another Skype session would be great!
Sept 21, 2019 10:51:02 GMT -5