saarinista, I am quite independent because of the past, leading to not wanting to be rejected or criticized. Being independent also helps keep me busy so i don't over think "what comes next" in the treatment plan. I also have instructions to walk a lot so that helps with the recovery and dissipates some frustrations. I would like to ride my bike but that is out for another month
I am not suppose to drive but when my W drives she hits so many bumps and it isn't pain free. She is way too up tight driving. When I drive I know where many of the bumps are. Form a stop I start out slow, apply minimal power and brake very gently. With my W it is gas, then brake, then gas, come to a quick stop. She doesn't like to drive and her anxiety shows.
During a check-up today, I am going to be taking an experimental drug that might result in birth defects so I had to sign a paper promising not to get anyone pregnant. This part was verbal. I also got asked on paper and in private about someone "forcing me to have sex." My W, daughter and her man were in the exam room with me at the time.
Me, I am feeling fit as a fiddle but still have restrictions that limit what I should do or not do.
These doctor-hospital visits did uncover two things that could have killed me in short order, and now they are being treated. That is sort of a plus.
The cauterization turned out OK in the long run. No having to get up and go to the potty every hour or every 1/2 hour. It did cause shrinkage so much so I had an in-ee for a while but the nurse had to inspect and clean the the area with a special wipe. There was nothing the least bit sexual about it. I also got over my dread of adult diapers and pooping in bed, well that happened too.
Yea, it was rough for a couple of days but the doctors and nurses said what I went through was common with other people with the surgery I had so don't worry about the embarrassing events.
I can say that I has so much excellent care in the hospital that it made me want to hug every care giver, but no, I just said "thank you" every time someone came to check on me. The care I got was 2 to 4 times more than I ever expected.
I see the humor in the idea of me not using the appendix so no loss. It was the foot of colon removed because the appendix and colon were cemented together and what was found in it that removed section that caused some serious issues.
I am on the mend and have a bunch of doctors I work with, so that is good.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5