I found someone. A very special man. I knew the moment I saw him that he would touch my heart. We were together for the entire month of July. It was the best month of my outsourcing life. I couldn’t get enough of him.
His significant other found out about me and is making his life hell. The situation is very abusive, but he believes he loves her and is willing to take the abuse and give up sex just to keep her in his life.
I see now that the connection was the fact that we are both damaged. I believe that he is aware that he is being abused. Just as I am aware of my situation. I offer him my support without judgment. He has to decide for himself if the relationship with this woman is worth the agony. I have to decide for myself if I can keep doing this.
DryCreek, I met him on AM. I had been “interviewing” for nearly three months. Frustrated, I had reached the point of doing video chats rather than finding time to go meet at a coffee shop. I was smitten at first smile.
He doesn’t know how she found out. It is a mystery.
Post by worksforme2 on Aug 16, 2019 7:24:00 GMT -5
I just so don't get this guy. To me, no woman, or man if roles were reversed, is that valuable when the relationship is permeated with abuse and is sexless. Sexless being another form of abuse. I understand how he can love her. I still loved my X during our sexless period, but if like my X they are unwilling or unable to make some kind of accommodation for your need for intimacy, then they should have nothing to say about how you address those needs and desires. This man sounds like he needs to grow a set of testicles and stand up to his W.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5