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Post by Rhapsodee on Jul 20, 2019 12:49:28 GMT -5
I invested in a Thread Lift. It is a face lift using PDO threads strategically inserted under the skin to lift.
I came home late from the procedure and hub was already home and a little annoyed that dinner was late. I had 6 tiny white gauze patches on both sides of my face along my hairline and clear tape from mid face to hairline following the path of the threads.
He did not notice the patches and tape. He did not ask why I was late.
Two days later as I was washing up for bed he noticed the patches. With surprise he exclaimed “What the heck is that!” I was in the middle of brushing my teeth, so I held up my finger for him to wait a minute. He said “Never mind, tell me later,” and left the room.
He never asked.
I am now at day 5. I have been walking around with tape on my face, a black eye, bruises and swelling from the procedure (all normal) and he has not asked.
HOWEVER, I know that him not “seeing” me doesn’t mean he isn’t aware of me. This doesn’t mean that I will become lax and careless with other things I do that could cause serious problems.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 20, 2019 14:40:03 GMT -5
This just blows me away !!!!! Is your H legally blind?
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Post by Rhapsodee on Jul 20, 2019 15:30:52 GMT -5
This just blows me away !!!!! Is your H legally blind? Hahahaha! It blows my mind too!
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Post by isthisit on Jul 20, 2019 15:36:55 GMT -5
Oh yes, this is horribly familiar. My H once overlooked the fact that I had viral meningitis and bacterial pneumonia. I ‘looked okay’ apparently. Okay enough to be admitted straight to critical care.
That was 13 years ago and today he is mystified why I wish to move on without him.
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Post by Handy on Jul 20, 2019 16:02:17 GMT -5
rhapsodee I know that him not “seeing” me doesn’t mean he isn’t aware of me.Maybe he sees it all and does not want to ask why or exactly what was done. I know next to nothing about face appearance improvements and would have guessed you got some Botox injections. Maybe your H thinks facial improvements are over priced and wants to avoid a money talk. Maybe if you told him ahead of time what you were going to do, he would be more open about talking about your procedure. I don't tell my W half of what I am going to do because she comes up with several reasons why I am wrong. It could be your H is totally aware of what just happened but like so many SM's it isn't worth the grief to discuss it. I came home late from the procedure and hub was already home and a little annoyed that dinner was late.Well he should have started to prepare something. I can't be the only H that does 98% of the meal planning and preparing. So, let us know when things settle down how the procedure changed your looks.
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Post by lessingham on Jul 20, 2019 17:06:25 GMT -5
At my lowest ebb, I was self harming. My wife never spotted the cuts and bruising!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2019 17:17:12 GMT -5
This just blows me away !!!!! Is your H legally blind? Betting money is on legally dumb.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Jul 20, 2019 17:57:05 GMT -5
At my lowest ebb, I was self harming. My wife never spotted the cuts and bruising!! 😳
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Post by Handy on Jul 20, 2019 20:57:49 GMT -5
lessingham At my lowest ebb, I was self harming. Friend, you were giving too much importance to your spouse and not enough to yourself. No other person is worth you doing self harm to yourself. People slash tires, break windows, damage other people's property when things go bad. I say they are not wort the effort or time to even do any property damage let alone self damage. I am worth more than that. You are worth more, way more.
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Post by richfairy72 on Jul 21, 2019 5:15:03 GMT -5
Oh yes, this is horribly familiar. My H once overlooked the fact that I had viral meningitis and bacterial pneumonia. I ‘looked okay’ apparently. Okay enough to be admitted straight to critical care. That was 13 years ago and today he is mystified why I wish to move on without him. This strikes a chord....my ex stepped over me to go to the gym whilst I was crawling on the floor in agony with a slipped disc to get breakfast for our son. Oh and often conveniently ignored me having a bad chest infection/migraine/hospitalised with mastitis.....I was still expected to cook his tea. I think many of us have similar stories.....we are invisible to them....a piece of furniture...... My cure for this was to leave .....and my ex is still puzzled as to why!!
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Post by snowman12345 on Jul 21, 2019 6:38:28 GMT -5
I invested in a Thread Lift. It is a face lift using PDO threads strategically inserted under the skin to lift. I came home late from the procedure and hub was already home and a little annoyed that dinner was late. I had 6 tiny white gauze patches on both sides of my face along my hairline and clear tape from mid face to hairline following the path of the threads. He did not notice the patches and tape. He did not ask why I was late. Two days later as I was washing up for bed he noticed the patches. With surprise he exclaimed “What the heck is that!” I was in the middle of brushing my teeth, so I held up my finger for him to wait a minute. He said “Never mind, tell me later,” and left the room. He never asked. I am now at day 5. I have been walking around with tape on my face, a black eye, bruises and swelling from the procedure (all normal) and he has not asked. HOWEVER, I know that him not “seeing” me doesn’t mean he isn’t aware of me. This doesn’t mean that I will become lax and careless with other things I do that could cause serious problems. My wife gets a haircut - I notice. Even though we are no longer lovers I still notice and I want her to know that. It sounds like your husband is only invested in himself. It seems like what you need or want or do is meaningless to him. THAT is the ultimate bullshit in any relationship. But, yes, continue to be wise in your extramarital dealings. I hope you find peace.
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 22, 2019 8:58:35 GMT -5
@rhapsody
"a little annoyed that dinner was late" - hand the dumbass a can of Campbell's soup. Any man not capable of preparing a dinner is less than a man.
"He did not notice the patches and tape" Oh he noticed, he just did not give a damn.
"I am now at day 5. ... he has not asked." Really, he just does not give a damn.
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Post by lessingham on Jul 22, 2019 11:10:41 GMT -5
I am no longer invisible and I have worth. If nothing else, I notice me and I approve of the way my life is going.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2019 11:52:13 GMT -5
When a relationship gets to this point, there are scenarios that are no win. Your story reminds me a little of something that happened last week where I didn't ask not because I didn't care or was interested but wasn't sure what to say. My wife was out and about and she's been looking for some sort of PT job. We talked on the phone and she was running some errands and then didn't respond to a text. I assumed she had an interview or something but she's kind of sensitive about needing to find a job so I didn't ask. Later in the evening she told me that she had been offered a job and that I was in trouble for not caring or asking where she was.
If I came home one evening and my wife had clearly had some sort of medical procedure that I didn't know she was going in for, I wouldn't know what to say either. "Hey, what happened to your face?" "So, getting rid of a few wrinkles, huh?" "So...(staring at face) how was your day?" I'm joking of course but you get my point.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Jul 22, 2019 13:20:52 GMT -5
@tooyoungtobeold2. Ahhh, good point. Thank you.
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