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Post by DryCreek on Jul 14, 2019 13:11:36 GMT -5
You thought the title was clickbait, didn’t you? ;-) Nope. But, alas, this is not my confession, but rather a link to an interesting discussion on the real (i.e., fake) side of porn. Like, not even recognizing co-stars when they’re out of makeup, and preferring an average FWB over a glam’d up porn star. www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/ccxmnw/so_im_a_male_porn_actor/
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Post by Handy on Jul 14, 2019 14:37:24 GMT -5
OK, that is the professional side of porn. I will bend the rules to apply to average folks and Kink people doing what they think is exciting or fun and call it erotica.
Yes the actors in the porn industry don't seem real to me. Just as hit movie actors playing a dramatized part of some documentary or historical event don't carry all that much impact for me.
What does seem mostly real is some of the home made , kink or fetish erotica videos. They are available if you look for them.
Like you DryCreek an average FWB would be very special to me. No need for any heels, a costume, a teddy or lingerie, just a smile and a willingness to want to be with me is all I expect or want.
Just call me boring. I do have 2 very talented hands and like to touch a woman in several places in a manner that she likes. In addition to being boring (compared to the porn industry) I might doze off after sex and snore, so that might be 2 strikes against me. BTW, I am just being a little ridiculous.
I am never going to fill the role of a male porn actor and I am OK with that occupation slipping through my fingers (or something else slipping which ever way it might).
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Post by michael on Jul 15, 2019 9:51:18 GMT -5
I’m pretty sure every man on here would gladly give up porn if they could get laid once in a while from their spouse. As for me, I honestly don’t think I’ll ever get laid again ever. It’s already been two years. Without porn I’d be even more bitter with life than I am now. (Or maybe not, maybe it wouldn’t be a constant reminder of what I’ll never have.). BTW, today is my birthday, I slept in the other room and she was gone at who knows at what time when I woke up at 7:00 in the morning. And no she doesn’t work today so who knows where too. She says she likes to drive in the middle of the night. If I ask, it’ll just be an argument.
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 15, 2019 12:00:46 GMT -5
DryCreek, that's for the link (snark). That was a rabbit hole I did not need to go down. There are some real a-holes on the reddit DeadBedrooms forum.
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 15, 2019 12:10:51 GMT -5
I’m pretty sure every man on here would gladly give up porn if they could get laid once in a while from their spouse. As for me, I honestly don’t think I’ll ever get laid again ever. It’s already been two years. Without porn I’d be even more bitter with life than I am now. (Or maybe not, maybe it wouldn’t be a constant reminder of what I’ll never have.). BTW, today is my birthday, I slept in the other room and she was gone at who knows at what time when I woke up at 7:00 in the morning. And no she doesn’t work today so who knows where too. She says she likes to drive in the middle of the night. If I ask, it’ll just be an argument. michael, what she is doing in the middle of the night probably is something you really do not want to know about. I suggest asking her and screw the starting a arguement. If she wants to argue then she is hiding something. Next step is talking to lawyer to ask about covert surveillance in your jurisdiction and how to protect your financial health.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 15, 2019 15:03:02 GMT -5
michael, that behavior is so far out of normal that you should be suspicious. Occam’s Razor says that the simplest answer is usually the correct one - that’s not the version she’s giving you. You need to overcome your fear of an argument and raise the issue. A rational person with nothing to hide would agree to you joining them on these midnight drives. Or you could go the route of snooping. Personally, I’d recommend confronting the issue first and investigating if that fails. Communication is important, and so is overcoming discomfort with awkward conversations.
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Post by heathcliff on Jul 15, 2019 16:57:53 GMT -5
I’m pretty sure every man on here would gladly give up porn if they could get laid once in a while from their spouse. As for me, I honestly don’t think I’ll ever get laid again ever. It’s already been two years. Without porn I’d be even more bitter with life than I am now. (Or maybe not, maybe it wouldn’t be a constant reminder of what I’ll never have.). BTW, today is my birthday, I slept in the other room and she was gone at who knows at what time when I woke up at 7:00 in the morning. And no she doesn’t work today so who knows where too. She says she likes to drive in the middle of the night. If I ask, it’ll just be an argument. The realistic best case of her disappearing in the middle of the night is that she is having an affair. The worst case is drugs or worse.
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Post by okiedude on Jul 15, 2019 18:39:11 GMT -5
I’m pretty sure every man on here would gladly give up porn if they could get laid once in a while from their spouse. As for me, I honestly don’t think I’ll ever get laid again ever. It’s already been two years. Without porn I’d be even more bitter with life than I am now. (Or maybe not, maybe it wouldn’t be a constant reminder of what I’ll never have.). BTW, today is my birthday, I slept in the other room and she was gone at who knows at what time when I woke up at 7:00 in the morning. And no she doesn’t work today so who knows where too. She says she likes to drive in the middle of the night. If I ask, it’ll just be an argument. If you have iPhones just click on share location always, on her phone and ok it on your phone... bring up in messages and see where she is.... People worry about privacy too much.
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Post by michael on Jul 16, 2019 2:13:18 GMT -5
I don’t think she is having an affair. Drugs, well, she smokes pot but... I agree though it is far from normal. She is a little fucked up. She has to be right all the time, even when she is painfully wrong. It’s rather annoying. Right now I’m worried about financial situations changing if I left. I’m thinking about just finding a girlfriend. I joined a dating site. No hits yet but hopefully someday. I’m not even trying to hide myself there. I’ll be hard to get a hit though as I’m being truthful of my situation so most girls wouldn’t want to get invovled.
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Post by Handy on Jul 16, 2019 2:56:04 GMT -5
I am rather firm in my beliefs when it comes to spending money on POT. That would be a deal breaker for me unless there was a medical reason to use pot. Now if you two had loads of money, a little pot money wouldn't bother me all that much. What would bother me is the driving around at odd hours. That would get me to hide a voice activated recorder in her car ASAP.
It is my opinion that you NEED to know EXACTLY what goes on during these "drives." Your future depends on accurate information, not guesses or blind spots.
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Post by baza on Jul 16, 2019 6:09:37 GMT -5
I don’t think she is having an affair. Drugs, well, she smokes pot but... I agree though it is far from normal. She is a little fucked up. She has to be right all the time, even when she is painfully wrong. It’s rather annoying. Right now I’m worried about financial situations changing if I left. I’m thinking about just finding a girlfriend. I joined a dating site. No hits yet but hopefully someday. I’m not even trying to hide myself there. I’ll be hard to get a hit though as I’m being truthful of my situation so most girls wouldn’t want to get invovled. What would have to happen for you to call a halt to the marriage Brother michael ? What's your dealbreaker ? And, on the other hand .... what (as far as you know) would have to happen for your missus to call a halt to it ? What's her dealbreaker ?
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Post by michael on Jul 16, 2019 6:58:07 GMT -5
Probably cheating on her part would be the dealbreaker for me.
For her, well, she already wants to leave me and the kids. I got bitter over the lack of sex so I was moody. She said I’m obsessed with sex. I think once a week is quite acceptable. As it turns out it’s neen two years now and that was only pity because my dad died. She just hasn’t yet because I didn’t want her to. I trying to be more pleasant even though I feel bitter. I don’t know if she really wants leave to or if she is just using the threat to get what she wants out of me.
BTW, how does this situation sound. Yesterday was my birthday. She wanted to go to a restaurant. We did. I drove my vehicle for a half hour to get there using my gas. The bill was almost $100. I paid. That was my birthday present. Nothing from the kids either. I always make sure that the kids get something for her on her days. Even if it’s something little. Think that was a one off? Last Christmas I spent almost $800 dollars on her from me and the kids. From her to me? I got a pair of socks.
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 16, 2019 7:40:08 GMT -5
Sounds like you would be better off without her
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Post by timedelay on Jul 16, 2019 7:56:43 GMT -5
For her, well, she already wants to leave me and the kids.
Has she explained why she wants to leave her children? I'm sorry your birthday only made you feel worse :-(
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Post by workingonit on Jul 16, 2019 8:45:56 GMT -5
michael good Lord she is awful to you. Take back your personal agency and kick her ass out. You will feel better for it eventually, I believe.
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