Yeah, I considered that approach too, but concluded at best it would result in duty sex which would undoubtedly be crappy boy starfish which was not at all what I wanted or needed. Duty sex is not a result at all. The only way to ensure your sanity is to accept your spouses right to their preference of refusing intimacy with you. Once this is recognised the big question then is what will you do about that?
Yup. Duty sex is worse than masturbation. At least by myself I know everyone involved is into it.
Oh that made me laugh out loud! Yes it sure is a sobering moment to realise there is more dignity in sorting yourself out than halfhearted spousal action.
I have tried to think of a compelling reason or even an argument for your W getting an IUD when she is not sexually active with you. I can only come up with one. I don't know of any medical or psychological benefit for having the proceedure when there is no chance of you impregnating her if the 2 of you aren't having sex. I am afraid this basically puts me in the boat with jim44444. Meaning that she is either currently active or is planning on being sexually active with someone else in the future. Why else address potential pregnancy issues if she is not in danger of becoming pregnant? You may not be the only party that is dis-satisfied with the current state of intimacy in the marriage.
I tend to agree. My ex had a vasectomy after my 2nd child . When our sex life dwindled and then stopped altogether years later I started out sourcing. I had an ablation to stop periods but there is still a chance of getting pregnant and then it would be dangerous. So I went on the pill and told my ex refuser it was to regulate my hormones lol My daughter got an IUD and the pain she went through the first 6 months would have made me have it removed and she still has periods and she still has pain at times the only thing she gained was no condoms. Why would anyone put them through the pain of putting it in and the discomfort after with no benefits. If she isn't cheating she's either delusional as hell or plans on reigniting the flames at home
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
Apr 25, 2019 20:10:25 GMT -5
h: The videos posted aren't attached. They are links to videos outside the site.
Apr 26, 2019 14:09:04 GMT -5
sexlessinga: Hi guys just joined
May 10, 2019 20:49:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: @mslowmaintenance….long time no see, welcome back...
May 29, 2019 9:30:25 GMT -5
noregretz: You can never outrun a Grizzly bear, but that's ok. You only have to outrun the person you're with....
Jun 15, 2019 12:28:09 GMT -5
solodriver: or in this case your refuser.
Jun 16, 2019 19:21:47 GMT -5