1. We sit down to do a task. 2. We project into the future about what the task will feel like. 3. We predict that the task will not feel good (e.g., will stress us out, make us feel bad, etc.). 4. Our emotional coping strategy kicks in to keep us away from this bad feeling. 5. We avoid the task.
1a. We contemplate divorce, separating or outsourcing.
2a. We think about how to go about the above.
3a. We know it will suck and cause a lot of bad feelings.
4a. We want to avoid the conflicts and expenses so we keep putting it off to avoid the immediate bad feelings.
5a. We put off the tasks and think , maybe there is a less painful way.
Or - if you are anything like me - you direct your focus elsewhere by "why chasing", thinking you are doing something productive about the actual problem, when all you're really doing is dicking about and avoiding the actual problem.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5