Post some information about your new community when you have time. Not the name of the places but what people do with their time and local activities.
I recently read an article about Mexico banks not being honest and retirees losing money. Monthly statements had the right numbers but when the people wanted to transfer a large amount of money out of the Mexican bank, what was on the bank statement, wasn't withdraw-able.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 7, 2019 21:28:39 GMT -5
I read that article, too, about that Mexican bank that managed to steal thousands from expats. Most of our money will stay in the US.
A big draw for us is that there is an English language community theater where we are moving. We met with some board members last year when we visited. It seems easy to get involved. We already are signed up to take an acting class.
There’s also a meditation center in my type of Buddhism and there are yoga classes. Some expats get involved in animal rescue. I suspect my dog-loving partner will get involved.
I’ve already joined Meet-ups for film lovers and writers. My political party also has a club there with regular meetings. We also plan to take Spanish and continue our workouts by joining a fitness club. I just learned to kayak and plan to go to the weekly kayaking meet-up. I’m also thinking of taking up horseback riding.
Nnorthstarmom, thank you for the information. Your new community sounds more active and has more things going on than I ever imagined. WTG with all of the things you are involved with. The weekly kayaking meet-up is a big surprise to me.
Maybe I keep too busy with just work around the house and fixing things.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 7, 2019 23:31:05 GMT -5
Handy, you always could start a meetup on a subject that interests you. There even are meetups for people who just want to meet and have coffee or a meal and enjoy getting to make new friends. I’ll probably start a meetup in Mexico.
Weird June here. The rain is torrential and the long days of the high latitudes are making me maizy. I am daydreaming of softer, warmer climes. Of all the realistic places, Italy is probably my retirement dream. The Italians are all mad and life would never be dull. The food is amazing and the climate is perfect. Yes, the winters are surprisingly cold but I am used to that. The housing is cheap too. But retirement would be short. I would get in my car and try to drive on Italian roads........
Post by northstarmom on Jun 13, 2019 21:28:55 GMT -5
We made it to our retirement area in Mexico early this evening. About a 2,000 mile drive including a couple of side trips including to a Texas rodeo. The latter was especially interesting to me because during part of his childhood post SM lover lived on a ranch that held rodeos that he participated in. It was interesting learning about the cowboy side of my guy whom I met in a community theater that we both acted in.
They say that doing new experiences together helps keep love fresh. Our 9 day road trip and moving to a new country should help keep our love fresh. Selling his house, discarding so much of our things that we could fit everything we own into an SUV were new experiences, too.
During that time both of us also retired, 3 trees fell on his house during a hurricane and I had to deal with a month of testing to see if I have cancer (Fortunately, I don’t).
They were very stressful new experiences that did strain our relationship sometimes. That we survived and are still in love and are having great sex is a testimony to the fact that once out of a SM there still will be problems but life still can be better than in a SM.
northstarmom- It sounds like you had a very eventful year! I’m very glad you are cancer free! There is nothing like relocating and a long road trip to test a relationship. I’m glad you and your guy made it safely to Mexico and that your love for one another remains strong. It’s all anyone can wish for. Enjoy your retirement!
Post by northstarmom on Jun 14, 2019 11:33:57 GMT -5
We got lost looking for a place to have breakfast but we found an English language community theater that was happy to add us to their listserv for prospective actors! Afterward, we had breakfast at a nice cafe next door.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 15, 2019 8:35:13 GMT -5
As post SM lover is unpacking I see a faded photo of a woman at the bottom of his suitcase. She is busty, smiling fetchingly and wearing shorts that show off her shapely legs as she leans diagonally against a tree like Marilyn Monroe.
Jealous, I assume he is hanging onto a picture of a long ago ex.
Post by northstarmom on Jun 15, 2019 12:04:35 GMT -5
Post sm lover says his mom was a sexual woman who enjoyed men and looking sexy. He said that because his mom obviously enjoyed sex he sought out women who enjoyed sex and he didn’t think less of them for enjoying sex. He thought more of them because they were sexual. As a teen before he ever had had sex he heard older guys talking about how great they felt when their lovers climaxed during sex. He vowed to be that kind of lover. He is an amazing lover.
Post by worksforme2 on Jun 16, 2019 14:25:37 GMT -5
Retiring to another country is something I have often thought about. But I just can't make the numbers work. My home and property is paid for as are my vehicles. Basically I have no debt. When I tally the insurance, utilities, taxes and maintenance costs I come up with an average of between $600 and $650 a month. So far I haven't found any country in the world where I can have a residence with all the amenities as mine does at a cost anywhere remotely close to what it costs me to be here.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5