My Changing View of Marriage and Love Jul 3, 2019 11:37:37 GMT -5 via mobile warmways, jim44444, and 4 more like this
Post by bballgirl on Jul 3, 2019 11:37:37 GMT -5
I started thinking about what I asked of him when we got married. I had one request and that was that he love me, which I believe he does. I didn’t ask him to make love to me, despite him telling me before we got married that if I couldn’t keep up with him sexually, we were done. Now the shoe is in the other foot. Do I leave him because he is the one who can’t keep up with me sexually, or stay in a relationship because of love, and believing he deeply cares for me despite no sex?
In reviewing what you stated, I believe we can be in love with someone (hook, line and sinker) and we can also love someone but not be in love with them. Do I stay in the SM and continue on and have a mister on the side for sex, or do I allow my sexual needs to dry up and continue to feel unwanted sexually? I watched the struggles my parents had after my father had three heart attacks and tried everything to get an erection (pills, shots, butt plugs, cockrings, etc.), along with counseling. I have tried to get my husband to consider a cockring or even therapy. One minute he admits he has an issue, and the next it’s suddenly my problem and not him.
The part of this that disturbs me the most is the foreplay and getting you excited and then he stops. That is mean but people treat us the way we allow them to treat us and I would either tell him to knock it off when he touches me knowing that it’s not going anywhere OR I would passive aggressively finish myself off in a very loud manner and then shout out “Matthew McConneaghy” or whoever gets you off. Then I would start again and go for round two by myself! That is not cool what he does.