I’m feeling okay today. Thank God. Bc I’ve been feeling pretty crappy the last week. After coming home from work today I realized, I love my new apartment. It’s nothing anyone would look at and think it’s special, but it’s incredibly special to me and I’m blessed to have it. I’m trying to take inventory of what I’m thankful for, and it’s helping. I thought I would be homeless if I left 3 months ago...I’m blessed with a home. I thought I wouldn’t be able to afford living on my own...I got a promotion and a substantial raise. I thought I’d feel like everything is totally my fault in my failed marriage...today I don’t feel that way. Most of all I don’t feel lonely right now. I may not have family and friends here, but I work with a great group of people and for that I’m thankful. I’m also thankful for this board. Just wanted to write a little while feeling hopeful instead of mad/desperate/crazy. The other side looks bright today.
Keep in mind that this part of the process can see you oscillating between feeling good and at times feeling rotten. The feeling rotten bits usually becoming less often and less intense. The feeling good bits usually becoming more often and more intense.
The stories of Sister elle might be worth you reading in this regard.
smith227- I’m glad you’re starting to experience some good days! Those moments of regret and doubt are not fun or easy to live through. But- you’re getting stronger and you will have far more frequent good moments as you become used to your new normal. I’m happy for you!
smith227 I am also recently out of my SM deal and bounce between terrible, okay-ish and not so bad days too. As time goes on I do still have terrible days sure, but less of them now and probably not quite as crappy as often. It is taking a lot of work and purposeful distraction, often doing stuff I don’t really feel like doing in the moment but am grateful to have undertaken after the event. The advice to be found here really does work, but it’s hard so please be kind to yourself where you can.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5