Post by northstarmom on Apr 21, 2019 23:31:20 GMT -5
“He told me that when we briefly met I demonstrated a composure and self assurance which he found ‘sexy’. I’m not clear how I managed that, but it’s interesting anyway. It seems that what attracts the middle aged man is quite different than last time I was dating, so I guess that’s valuable to know.”
Middle aged men differ in what attracts them to women. The same is true of all men.
Was he in your car when he complained about your music? Asking because I’m wondering if you drove him.
He sounds like a bore but it’s good you tested your wings a bit. It’s also good that you turned down a second date.
Oh no I arrived and left alone, as I made sure I had an exit strategy secured. He watched me park apparently and felt that he had to share his views on the decibel count. Presumably my parking was okay or he would have shared his opinions on that too! Yeah he’s a tosser alright but if I am feeling beneficent perhaps he was a little nervous? Not beneficent enough to see him again to find out though, oh no. Regarding the what floats the middle aged man’s boat - how does it differ then?
Post by northstarmom on Apr 22, 2019 7:47:53 GMT -5
“Regarding the what floats the middle aged man’s boat - how does it differ then?”
My point is that what floats men’s boat depends on the individual men regardless of what age they are. Don’t generalize to all middle aged men friom what one man that age found appealing. Different men will be attracted or not attracted to you for different reasons.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
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Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
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Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
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