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Post by theexplorer on Apr 9, 2019 12:40:12 GMT -5
Has anyone looked into having a cuddle friend? There are websites to help find someone. Below are two I've looked at, there are other websites as well.
Free cuddles:
www.cuddlecomfort.com/
Pay site:
snugglebuddies.com/
This sure sounds good on the surface. Anyone know anything about this subject?
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Post by Handy on Apr 9, 2019 14:55:00 GMT -5
We’ll find you a cuddle buddy so you can start a friendship based on cuddling without any expectations of something more. I am going to be realistic, I would expect more.
Is this a way to circumvent censorship aimed at sites where the expectation is clearly a sexual hook-up site or at least a "dating site?"
If I took the without any expectations of something more part at face value, it would be similar to going into a "power tool only store" and deciding which tool to buy knowing I don't even have electricity, of any type possible (including no generator, solar or batteries) where I live. It would just be another form of self torture.
Some sessions of cuddling have to lead so sex, period!
Yes i am sort of a tool junkie. Nothing expensive but I have enough tools to do several types of repairs and or constructing things. I even have a generator if there is no electricity where I want to work on something.
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Post by firefollower on Apr 9, 2019 14:59:38 GMT -5
We’ll find you a cuddle buddy so you can start a friendship based on cuddling without any expectations of something more. I am going to be realistic, I would expect more. Me too...if I am going to pay someone to be intimate with me by cuddling...in my current state, I would find it hard to not let my hands roam.
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Post by Handy on Apr 9, 2019 15:10:36 GMT -5
Even if hands roaming happened, that too would be torture is no sex happened. Yea, I could do the cuddling, hands roaming some of the times but not that often without PIV sex and lots of other touching while having sex.
Me=hands all over the place, so you are pre-warned. I hear some women like sex my way.
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Post by shamwow on Apr 11, 2019 12:40:29 GMT -5
I'm sure the refusing spouse will believe that cuddling is all that is happening.
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Post by choosinghappy on Apr 11, 2019 14:05:38 GMT -5
I'm sure the refusing spouse will believe that cuddling is all that is happening. But in their defense: if someone doesn’t want sex and truly does just want to cuddle, and they go through this website which explicitly states that it is ONLY about cuddling and then they’re matched up with you, who’s in the wrong here? Them, taking it at face value? Or you, who has decided not to take it literally despite what it says? (Hint: it’s you.) This has problems written all over it.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 11, 2019 15:11:39 GMT -5
If someone wanted more than cuddling, pay for play options are readily available. Escort services are out there, and most strip clubs still in existance have private lounges where what happens is between you and the stripper.
Odds are good most cuddling services are what they say. I am sure a refuser would be angry, though, because it is a sign you are no longer under their complete control.
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Post by baza on Apr 11, 2019 18:50:37 GMT -5
I'd speculate that the refuser spouse would re-act very similarly to you having a cuddle buddy as they would to you having a FWB.
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 11, 2019 19:07:47 GMT -5
Most refusers who don't want to cuddle or have sex with their partners also don't want their partners to get those things from someone else. The refusers know that if their spouses get those things outside the marriage, the refused may decide to end the marriage and that would end the marital benefits that the refusers enjoy
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Post by Handy on Apr 11, 2019 20:18:56 GMT -5
Choosinghappy But in their defense: if someone doesn’t want sex and truly does just want to cuddle, and they go through this website which explicitly states that it is ONLY about cuddling and then they’re matched up with you, who’s in the wrong here? Them, taking it at face value? Or you, who has decided not to take it literally despite what it says? (Hint: it’s you.)Anything that can be stretched or manipulated (just cuddles-nothing more) will be stretched and abused. Anyone that believes it is "just cuddles" well I have a bridge in New Your you can buy shares in. The bridge is really busy and collects a lot of money every day. Buy your shares of the daily revenue now!
OR
Maybe you buy into the idea if your belief in God is strong enough the snake handling Pentecostal church in Kentucky is for you. God won't allow the snake to bite you....well unless you don't believe in God strongly enough, or something like that.
I suppose SOME PEOPLE could stop at cuddling, but I bet most don't.
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 11, 2019 20:22:26 GMT -5
Call me naive but I think it's just cuddles. It would have been easy for the police to have ended it or for the media to have ended it if the employees were offering more than cuddles.
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Post by Handy on Apr 11, 2019 20:31:23 GMT -5
If the law is going to stop a cuddle website for some people doing more than cuddling, tinder, adult friend finders, Ashleymadison and the like should have been shut down a long time ago. Even pleantyoffish and other similar dating sites, to my knowledge are not subjects to being shut down that I know of. OK, so 2 people cuddle for nn minuets. Then maybe some other touchy-freely hand action takes place, what comes next? Yea, I admit I would be trying to do more, trust me. If the woman objected I would stop ASAP but never partner with her in the future. A partner would have to want more than "just cuddling" for me to be with her again.
I don't go in to Mcdonald's or a candy store to just touch the merchandise. If it isn't for sale or barter why go half way. Yes cuddling is nice but sometimes I want the whole enchilada.
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Post by choosinghappy on Apr 11, 2019 20:40:38 GMT -5
It seems I was coming at this from a different angle: I was thinking about refusers (like our exes, for those who have left), wanting to join this cuddle site LITERALLY for the cuddles. It’s likely many of them don’t want sex or something sexual. But, as a recent post pointed out, touch starvation is a very real thing. If people who don’t want sex but do recognize that they want non-sexual touch and affection go to this site for cuddles only and it ends up turning sexual? Well then, I feel bad for our ex refusers/those folks. If they can’t get it there, where can they get it?
But now I see others in this thread were thinking about it as the refused going to this site while still married. I agree with Baza that IMO the refuser would be just as opposed to that as they would be to their spouse outsourcing the sex.
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Post by choosinghappy on Apr 11, 2019 20:45:20 GMT -5
Handy if you want the whole enchilada, go to a place that is explicit in offering that. As ironhamster said, there are plenty of pay-for-play places you could go. The problem with your store analogy is that in a store, you CAN buy the merchandise. That’s what it’s there for. If it was marketed as window-shopping only (like cuddling only), you likely would choose a different store that offered what you were buying, wouldn’t you? Why add additional confusion and frustration into it when you could have a cut-and-dry situation if you were to just go somewhere else?
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Post by solodriver on Apr 11, 2019 20:50:55 GMT -5
Handy if you want the whole enchilada, go to a place that is explicit in offering that. As ironhamster said, there are plenty of pay-for-play places you could go. The problem with your store analogy is that in a store, you CAN buy the merchandise. That’s what it’s there for. If it was marketed as window-shopping only (like cuddling only), you likely would choose a different store that offered what you were buying, wouldn’t you? Why add additional confusion and frustration into it when you could have a cut-and-dry situation if you were to just go somewhere else? Exactly. Cuddling only would make me crazier than I already am. And having someone holding me and I them is going to cause a physical reaction I will not be able to control. So I don't want to be limited in what I/we could have if we wanted to have more.
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