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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 3, 2019 10:47:47 GMT -5
As I’ve mentioned in past posts, I enjoy line dancing (2-3 evenings a week) and hiking (most weekends). Hub has not complained (much). He hasn’t requested my company to do anything other than watch tv. Last week, he asked if I was going to be home Sunday. I told him that I had planned to go to a line dancing event that afternoon.
He looked frustrated and said “For once, I’d like you to be available to do something with me”. My reply was “I’ve been here. You’re the one who has been gone for the past 20 years.”
He looked shocked and then a little ashamed. He nodded his head at me in acknowledgment of his neglect but offered no apology. He then asked, “Will you please go see the new superhero movie with me instead of line dancing?”
I enjoyed the movie and the personal time with my husband. I think I made the right choice.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2019 11:15:36 GMT -5
It's so hard to know when to say no and when to concede, isn't it? I think I would have done the same, though. I likely would have changed my plans and gone with my husband. Seeing any sort of effort, knowing what I truly want is for my marriage to work out, makes me more forgiving (IMO) than someone who has already mentally/emotionally checked out. Will be interested to see if your point was made (finally) with your husband and change happens, or if it was a one time thing and you're back to solo outings. Glad you are happy with your decision for the moment.
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Post by smith227 on Apr 3, 2019 20:37:49 GMT -5
I think no matter where you’re at in the relationship, it’s always nice to feel wanted. I’m happy for you and hope it continues. I’m leaving my sm in less than two weeks, and I know it’s the right thing to do, and I know he and I make each other miserable, but damn if it doesn’t still hurt a bit at the end of the day. So, I think it’s fine to be happy even if it’s just for a little while or the two of you turn it around completely and end up happy all the time. Marriage isn’t easy even when it’s full of sex and affection. If you’re in it for the long haul take all the happy parts you can.
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Post by baza on Apr 3, 2019 21:01:40 GMT -5
That's the business of life Sister Rhapsodee . It's all about our choices.
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