You know, I spend every day, every hour in my head. It's as comfortable as an old couch. I am content in here. None of that obsessive worrying-about-stuff that the author lists. No obsessive going around and around in loops and circles.
For me, living in my head means learning things, looking around for interesting stuff, thinking, planning, how to deal with people and things and projects. All in my head. Reading a lot and getting into other people's heads in the process.
Nothing, absolutely fucking nothing wrong with spending lots of time in my head.
You can choose how you see the world, your world. You can choose not to worry about things you can't change, you can choose not to give a rat's arse about how [the wrong] people might think about you. You can learn to be creative and constructive in your head and how to enjoy the view.
Actually it boils down largely to some of the things he says in his other write-up you linked: be self reliant, have a sense, a secure sense, of self worth. Know your mind, your goals, your likes and your needs. If I take care of my goals, likes and needs then there's no need for lying in bed, worrying. And if something DOES bug me, I make a plan and sort it out, so I don't have to worry about it any more. End of.
Nothing wrong with living in your head .... so long as you organize it right. And if you own your shit (and your mistakes and fuck ups) you can if needed, apologize and get on with life. Mistakes are part of life.
A lot of women in my life have had a big problem with that. They said "You fucked up". And I say "You're right, I fucked up. Mea culpa. I am sorry. I will try not to do it again". Life goes on, and I'll try not to do it again. But it's not enough. They couldn't accept that I can accept my mistakes, and don't cringe and cry and grovel going round and round. Life is too short. I own my shit, I take responsibility, and I look forward to doing better tomorrow. If they can't accept it, then it's their problem.
Living in my head 24/7 is very comfortable indeed.
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worksforme2: Tamara answered me yesterday. She and her partner are moving into a house next week. It's probably about as good as is possible. She didn't comment on the situation with her daughter.
Sept 17, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thanks for the update; just hope she is happy
Sept 17, 2019 19:49:55 GMT -5
workingonit: Elkclan2 my son's gerbil escaped at the same time as his pet snake. I did not think it was a coincidence!
Sept 17, 2019 20:40:26 GMT -5
hopingforachange: Wow, is been forever since I read the shoutbox.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:01 GMT -5
hopingforachange: I need to set up another Skype session.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:16 GMT -5
sme935: Not quite sure if anyone reads it but if there is a female in the Chicago area (40-60 years old) who is interested in chatting with me drop me a message or look at my profile for messenger screenname;
Sept 19, 2019 9:09:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Another Skype session would be great!
Sept 21, 2019 10:51:02 GMT -5
elkclan2: Gerbil was recaptured unharmed. Turns out my cat is good at opening gerbil cages, but not good at catching gerbils.
Sept 27, 2019 8:10:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Yay! Glad to hear the critter is okay.
Sept 28, 2019 20:44:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: elkclan2....don't feed cat for a couple days, cat will become very proficient at catching gerbil
Sept 29, 2019 14:15:01 GMT -5
javba: Hi folks been gone a minute [several minutes actually] What is the skype we're referencing?
Oct 1, 2019 8:55:44 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: javba, once in a while someone sets up a group Skype chat, so we can see each other and chat. I have a Skype account with my user name from here for them. One hasn't happened in a long time...
Oct 6, 2019 9:55:29 GMT -5
wewbwb: I'm pretty sure that it was seeing my ass.
Oct 6, 2019 15:21:29 GMT -5
petrushka: you breed donkeys?
Oct 10, 2019 6:05:03 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Birthday shamwow….
Oct 11, 2019 9:02:53 GMT -5
worksforme2: I knew it was going to happen..the seasons here have jumped from summer to almost winter..months of hot, dry days and nights then a week later it is rain and temps in the low 40's at night...there goes my regressing effort this year
Oct 17, 2019 7:24:46 GMT -5
worksforme2: whoops..I meant re-grassing...I don't need to do any regressing...
Oct 17, 2019 11:39:34 GMT -5
donp: Help, No sex for 1 year. I think I have lost my mind.
Oct 17, 2019 13:21:05 GMT -5
javba: Agree donp - why would you NOT lose your mind, Rub one out - it helps for about 12 hours :-)
Oct 17, 2019 14:06:18 GMT -5
worksforme2: donp,...you think you have lost your mind... so you aren't positive... think about it some more and then let us know what you decide...
Oct 17, 2019 14:22:10 GMT -5