You know, I spend every day, every hour in my head. It's as comfortable as an old couch. I am content in here. None of that obsessive worrying-about-stuff that the author lists. No obsessive going around and around in loops and circles.
For me, living in my head means learning things, looking around for interesting stuff, thinking, planning, how to deal with people and things and projects. All in my head. Reading a lot and getting into other people's heads in the process.
Nothing, absolutely fucking nothing wrong with spending lots of time in my head.
You can choose how you see the world, your world. You can choose not to worry about things you can't change, you can choose not to give a rat's arse about how [the wrong] people might think about you. You can learn to be creative and constructive in your head and how to enjoy the view.
Actually it boils down largely to some of the things he says in his other write-up you linked: be self reliant, have a sense, a secure sense, of self worth. Know your mind, your goals, your likes and your needs. If I take care of my goals, likes and needs then there's no need for lying in bed, worrying. And if something DOES bug me, I make a plan and sort it out, so I don't have to worry about it any more. End of.
Nothing wrong with living in your head .... so long as you organize it right. And if you own your shit (and your mistakes and fuck ups) you can if needed, apologize and get on with life. Mistakes are part of life.
A lot of women in my life have had a big problem with that. They said "You fucked up". And I say "You're right, I fucked up. Mea culpa. I am sorry. I will try not to do it again". Life goes on, and I'll try not to do it again. But it's not enough. They couldn't accept that I can accept my mistakes, and don't cringe and cry and grovel going round and round. Life is too short. I own my shit, I take responsibility, and I look forward to doing better tomorrow. If they can't accept it, then it's their problem.
Living in my head 24/7 is very comfortable indeed.
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worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
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