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Post by sensuary on Mar 20, 2019 8:54:32 GMT -5
Hello to all ! I brand new to this forum. I’m a 67 year young gentleman. I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for nearly 45 years. I married up as the saying goes, so I’m grateful for her and to her. As I’m continuing down life’s path they’re are some things whichI still want to experience, one of which is a sexual partner with a high sex drive . I’d love to connect with a lady who understands about this type of connection with another human being. I can’t leave as leaving is contrary to my upbringing. So I’d like to chat with those who understand and have similar thoughts.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 20, 2019 9:35:20 GMT -5
Hello to all ! I brand new to this forum. I’m a 67 year young gentleman. I’ve been married to my wonderful wife for nearly 45 years. I married up as the saying goes, so I’m grateful for her and to her. As I’m continuing down life’s path they’re are some things whichI still want to experience, one of which is a sexual partner with a high sex drive . I’d love to connect with a lady who understands about this type of connection with another human being. I can’t leave as leaving is contrary to my upbringing. So I’d like to chat with those who understand and have similar thoughts. Sorry, my friend, but I think you've come to the wrong place. This is a forum for those who are in a sexless marriage, not a hookup site. Perhaps Ashley Madison would be more what you're looking for.
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Post by northstarmom on Mar 20, 2019 9:50:08 GMT -5
Shamwow is right. This is not the right site for you.
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 20, 2019 10:40:50 GMT -5
Tinder and AdultFriendFinder are a couple other possibilities. Be honest in your profile about what you have to offer and what you are looking for. You may also consider an escort service in your area, or a strip club with a private lounge area where anything that happens is just between you and the girl you are with. Best of luck to you.
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Post by baza on Mar 20, 2019 17:39:49 GMT -5
Just out of interest sensuary , would you care to elaborate on this moral code you express that - "leaving is contrary to my upbringing" There is a bit of a debate going on in another thread about these 'moral codes' we apply to our lives, and this one - "leaving is contrary to my upbringing" warrants a critical examination I think. Do you think that continuing to hold a moral value that is based on what you were told as a kid is a sound basis to continue to hold that view. See, it seems rather hypocritical that you could take the moral high ground about not leaving your marriage, yet be quite at peace with the prospect of cheating on your missus.
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Post by saarinista on Mar 20, 2019 22:18:53 GMT -5
sensuary are you actually more concerned about the financial fallout of a divorce than the moral fallout? Because baza is correct that it seems inconsistent to have an affair if you're trying to hold a moral high ground.
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Post by baza on Mar 20, 2019 22:43:27 GMT -5
sensuary are you actually more concerned about the financial fallout of a divorce than the moral fallout? Because baza is correct that it seems inconsistent to have an affair if you're trying to hold a moral high ground. Hugely important point you make Sister saarinista Where the stated reason for taking the moral high ground might actually be a smokescreen to camouflage the actual reason. For example, it sounds a whole lot better and ethical to say - "I am against divorce because of ( insert moral high ground reason here)" rather than straight up saying "I am shit frightened of the turmoil, financial fall out and social dislocation that might ensue if I left" The latter doesn't play to the audience anywhere near as impressively as the former.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 20, 2019 22:52:53 GMT -5
sensuary are you actually more concerned about the financial fallout of a divorce than the moral fallout? Because baza is correct that it seems inconsistent to have an affair if you're trying to hold a moral high ground. Perhaps more concerned about his morale ground than the moral ground?
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Post by saarinista on Mar 20, 2019 23:04:48 GMT -5
I guess I've gotten to the point where I'm impressed with people who can be honest about their needs, their desires, their fears and being perfectly imperfect humans. But most of us are socialized to BS our way to some illusory "top"-whatever that is-and to try to impress people, so I can't judge him for attempting to look moral. However, I will say that if sensuary decides to come back on the board, he can expect to be lovingly called out on inconsistent statements and hypocrisy. I think on this board, most of us would agree that only the truth can set us free.
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Post by Handy on Mar 20, 2019 23:17:43 GMT -5
Was sensuary here to impress anyone or is he like so many people staying for now, feeling a bit guilty for wishing they were in some joyous relationship right now or real soon.
For me it is fighting the giult, going against long held beliefs about honest, responsibility, going against some so called widely accepted moral standard, looking for a better way, looking how to pay for things for both sides, and a whole bunch of other emotional stuff that is going against what we held as the right or honorable way for many years.
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Post by baza on Mar 21, 2019 0:02:30 GMT -5
In an ILIASM context, staying in your ILIASM deal is no more moral or immoral than leaving it.
There are plenty of people here who left their ILIASM deals and I ain't seen the mark of Satan on them. They seem as genuine and nice a people as anyone else.
There are plenty of people here who are staying in their ILIASM deals and so far I have not discerned any haloes around their heads. They seem as nice and genuine a lot as you find anywhere else.
I'll float the concept - - - - Staying or leaving is not a question of morals. But it is, very much, a matter of fully informed choices.
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Post by lessingham on Mar 21, 2019 6:20:26 GMT -5
Baza, you are a hard taskmaster, but a honest one. I do like your insistence on informed, considered and honest decisions.
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Post by baza on Mar 27, 2019 21:49:52 GMT -5
Baza, you are a hard taskmaster, but a honest one. I do like your insistence on informed, considered and honest decisions. It needs to be added that the standards I aspire to, I do not often achieve Brother lessingham .
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