Are Your Values Helping Or Hindering > Mar 17, 2019 2:25:19 GMT -5 WindSister, ironhamster, and 5 more like this
Post by baza on Mar 17, 2019 2:25:19 GMT -5
The values we hold are curious things.
Sometimes born out of experience, sometimes by indoctrination from parents or religious teachings.
Sometimes ‘all of the above’.
Sometimes by us figuring stuff out by ourselves.
In a lot of cases, these values we adopt become our identity, they become who we think we are.
And this is not necessarily such a bad thing – but neither is it always a good thing.
It depends on what those values are. If they are life enhancing values that’s great. But if they are life depleting values, or out of date with your current reality, then not so much.
Take a situation where you have developed a life value of marriage being forever, that divorce is wrong and is something you would never do.
Now, imagine you have found yourself in an ILIASM shithole and are desperately unhappy. Is this life value you have held (for who knows how long) actually enhancing your life ?
Is it possible it is actually depleting your life ?
Could it be that this particular life value – that you have had for many years - is actually …… wrong …… or completely out of whack with your current reality?
You’d need a pretty brutal self examination to answer that question I think.
Usually if one has a life value challenged one tends to grip that value even tighter, hold it closer and reject anything to the contrary.
Challenging ones values, particularly those values you have had for years is some really hard and demanding work.
It is extraordinarily uncomfortable to come to a realization that a value you have held for ages may be completely wrong, or completely out of whack with your present situation.
I think you owe it to yourself to take a good hard look at your assorted life values.
I know that in a lot of mine, the values I had were not helping me a real lot.
And that was a very unsettling and even confusing time for me.
And then, the questions just got harder.