Oh yes I found myself here about 3 months ago. I've lost all hope for my marriage and I don't want to try or for her to try. If she does I will tell her I don't love her that way any more. I love her like a sister and that's it. And that's the way I will treat her for the remaining time I'm here.
It was very sad when I came to terms with the fact that there was no "us" anymore. That still stings but I'm hoping as time goes away the sting will stop.
Last Edit: Mar 17, 2019 0:57:59 GMT -5 by solodriver
It’s hard to continue to love someone romantically who doesn’t love you back in the way you need to feel like a whole person.
There's a couple of really good things that are evident here Sister JMX .
#1 - you've been all the way through the process to the end, bar the final step. It shouldn't be unfamiliar territory if you are of a mind to re-activate your option to take that final step. #2 - you seem to know exactly where you are at this moment. That's priceless information. #3 - you've made the transition to 'indifference'
It appears to be done, and is now just a matter of formalising that fact when you want, if that's what you want.
I was there too JMX . I am numb now. Not sad, no guilt. We will divorce when we are able. For now we are amicable siblings. Sad place to go through but so very clear.
I got there in my SM too. Luckily, it wasn’t too long before we were able to go our separate ways and I could start feeling and living again. Sending hugs to those of you who need to endure this for longer than you want to.
Post by angeleyes65 on Mar 17, 2019 13:26:03 GMT -5
Yep I got to that point too. I preferred he was anywhere else doing anything else. He could screw a friend in our bed I wouldn't of cared. I got to the point we were visiting my sister and the bed was only a full size and it dipped in the middle. I slept holding onto the frame on my side. I changed with the door locked. That's how you know it's over. And he STILL can't understand why I can't try again.
I got into a car accident in January and totaled my car. During my time in the hospital I found out I had an existing medical condition after a brain scan, and have been dealing with that. My job at the time had a lot of travel involved and I found out that it wouldn’t be possible for me to do it anymore. So, he paid most of the bills in February while I started a new job that didn’t involve traveling. We have separate bank accounts. I got promoted last week and that came with a considerable raise. Ive always made more money than him, and now I do again. So, it’s not like I totaled my car, and decided to lay in bed and feel sorry for myself. He paid around 70% of the bills for one month. One month. During that month I never asked him for a dime. He just paid the normal regular bills we have every month. A few days ago he was telling me how I’m the reason he doesn’t have any money. Bc in February he had to pay so much of the bills and he hasn’t been this poor since he was in his 20s. Our bills are nothing. They total around 900 a month. That includes EVERYTHING. So, I told him that if he’s so broke to get rid of his cats, or cancel his internet. His response was to tell me that he needs to get rid of the dead weight that’s me and that he loves his cats. He loves his internet. He tolerates me bc I owe him money and knows if he kicks me out he’ll never see any of it. His words didn’t even sting. Not even a little bit. I. Don’t. Care.
Smith227 told him that if he’s so broke to get rid of his cats, or cancel his internet.
Well, that was a big insult in my opinion. Yes, I like my Internet (the W has the cats and feels the same way your H does=the H goes a long time before the cats go) but aren't people's needs more important?
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5