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Post by ragdoll on Mar 11, 2019 12:28:29 GMT -5
After four and a half years. My bf and I decided to break up. He spoked first, after my bd party I got tipsy and as I've been feeling frustrated, I told him how I felt... (once again) we fought and the next day we had the talk: he said, he doesn't know if he ever will be able to meet my needs sex-wise and I agreed. It was a long heart-breaking talk, as we love each other so much and we didn't really want to break up, but we know that it will be worse if we keep forcing things, and that we could hurt each other really bad if we don't stop now.
We're still living in the same place, we separated rooms, divided our clothes, and took all the memories of our relatioship around the place and boxed them. We still talk alot, and have a very friendly, caring relationship. So it's hard for us not to kiss or cuddle as we're so used to. We still see our therapist and she's helping us with the process.
Anyway, I came here before Jun/2018 and posted all our story, some of your tried to warn me about how it wasnt going to get better, but you know, we... I still had hope. I guess you all were right and I just didn't lisent
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Post by baza on Mar 11, 2019 18:21:28 GMT -5
Suggestions, advice and observations and are freely offered here Sister ragdoll . And you are under no obligation whatsoever to take any notice of them. Sometimes though, it is a matter of 'timing'. When you posted in June 2018 it obviously was not a time when you were receptive to what suggestions you were then offered. Perhaps now, in March 2019, IS the right time for those suggestions. Perhaps NOW is the right time for you to move forward with your life. Within the membership there are plenty of people who have been through this stage you are currently at. If you wanted any input or suggestions on that I am sure such input would - again - freely be offered to you.
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 11, 2019 20:22:53 GMT -5
Not listening? You did fine. Everyone comes here looking for a solution, that spark of magic, that missing ingredient, to make our partner love us the way we need to be loved. It is hard to face reality, but, it is the only way you are going to find happiness, and I do believe that you will find happiness.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 11, 2019 20:58:13 GMT -5
I wish I had a dollar for everyone who comes to this and the old EP site wishing and hoping they will find the magic bullet or formula to bring their relationship back to happier days. This includes me. I just knew if I kept at it I would eventually turn things around. It took probably almost a year. But after repeatedly being shown what was really going on, I came "kicking and screaming" to reality. My W and I were simply no longer compatible. So don't beat yourself up too bad. You faced down the 600lb. gorilla in the room and made the hard decisions. You are going to be fine.
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Post by ragdoll on Mar 12, 2019 14:34:33 GMT -5
Suggestions, advice and observations and are freely offered here Sister ragdoll . And you are under no obligation whatsoever to take any notice of them. Sometimes though, it is a matter of 'timing'. When you posted in June 2018 it obviously was not a time when you were receptive to what suggestions you were then offered. Perhaps now, in March 2019, IS the right time for those suggestions. Perhaps NOW is the right time for you to move forward with your life. Within the membership there are plenty of people who have been through this stage you are currently at. If you wanted any input or suggestions on that I am sure such input would - again - freely be offered to you. Oh, well, I've been posting on here maybe trying to be heard, maybe looking for someone to talk to, someone who can understand. I've read so much already about how I should focuse on myself,my hobbies, my happiness, things that fill my soul, etc... and Im working on it. But the void in my chest is there, of course its too soon. So I'll keep reading the same suggestions over and over again, until I can breathe again.
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Post by ragdoll on Mar 12, 2019 14:37:20 GMT -5
Not listening? You did fine. Everyone comes here looking for a solution, that spark of magic, that missing ingredient, to make our partner love us the way we need to be loved. It is hard to face reality, but, it is the only way you are going to find happiness, and I do believe that you will find happiness. Thank you so much! Yes, my sister knows my story and she was crying saying that "if only there was a magic hand to fix it" It's weird how it's easier to start believing that -I can be happy- when someone else says it. Thanks again
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Post by ragdoll on Mar 12, 2019 14:40:29 GMT -5
I wish I had a dollar for everyone who comes to this and the old EP site wishing and hoping they will find the magic bullet or formula to bring their relationship back to happier days. This includes me. I just knew if I kept at it I would eventually turn things around. It took probably almost a year. But after repeatedly being shown what was really going on, I came "kicking and screaming" to reality. My W and I were simply no longer compatible. So don't beat yourself up too bad. You faced down the 600lb. gorilla in the room and made the hard decisions. You are going to be fine. 600lb. gorilla in the room and made the hard decisions. You are going to be fine. Thank you so much! The big gorilla now is the fact that I'll be one my own, living alone for the first time and the single life again. It's scary but I guess it's better than being trapped in a relationship that wont make us happy.
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