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Post by baza on Mar 3, 2019 18:26:22 GMT -5
I am pretty sure that Brother h posted a thread a while back concerning "distractions" and it attracted a lot of traffic including lots of suggestions. Maybe if you looked up his past threads you might pick it up. Addendum.Just found it. Author was Brother h . Thread is called "Looking For Ways To Cope" posted April 2017. There are 9 pages of comments.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2019 23:08:12 GMT -5
I’m really sorry you’re in this spot. I don’t know your story very well or if you have an exit plan. But I can tell you one thing, the only thing that took my constant rumination over my marriage away was leaving. I cannot tell you what a huge weight lifted from my shoulders and how much energy and mind space was freed once I no longer had to agonize over my tortured marriage. In fact, I didn’t even realize just how much it consumed me until it was finally over. I am so grateful not to be constantly thinking about it anymore. I have so much more energy and joy for life.
Hang in there. Until you really can’t anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2019 8:23:33 GMT -5
What I've been trying to do is stop thinking about my Husband and start focusing fully on me ... what I want each day, doing something that makes me happy and healthy each day. I also take a break from this forum every so often to truly get the SM off my radar for a while. I'm finding with each little stint focused on me, I feel stronger and more clear mentally the next time I revisit the issue. I can't change my husband so focusing on him puts all my power into an empty well. I can change me, so I'm pouring my energy into me and fueling up for whatever my final decision on my SM will be. Good luck.
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 5, 2019 19:55:14 GMT -5
Any hobby you can immerse yourself into.
Relax. You've got this. "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself," as Kennedy once said.
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 5, 2019 19:59:51 GMT -5
Any hobby you can immerse yourself into. Relax. You've got this. "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself," as Kennedy once said. Wasn't that Roosevelt?
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 5, 2019 20:04:11 GMT -5
Any hobby you can immerse yourself into. Relax. You've got this. "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself," as Kennedy once said. Wasn't that Roosevelt? Maybe. Some dead guy. I saw it on the internet, and, everything on the internet is true according to Calvin Coolidge.
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Post by baza on Mar 5, 2019 20:26:52 GMT -5
Maybe. Some dead guy. I saw it on the internet, and, everything on the internet is true according to Calvin Coolidge. Memorizing USA Presidents would be a good distraction - or Australian Prime Ministers. "The one who wore a silly hat" "The bloke with the mullet" "The wheelchair bloke" "The guy who's missus was a real honey" "That bloke that got shot" "The rangar sheila"
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Post by flounder on Mar 6, 2019 19:59:10 GMT -5
Maybe. Some dead guy. I saw it on the internet, and, everything on the internet is true according to Calvin Coolidge. Kennedy. And Coolidge was a pathological liar.
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Post by angeleyes65 on Mar 6, 2019 20:16:24 GMT -5
I just put myself in the mind set that he was a roommate. I ran errands on my way home from work. Worked out when I got home. And played games on my phone or read while waiting for bedtime. Cleaned and did things with my friends or kids on weekends. I also out sourced and talked online to him that helped a lit but not for everyone I know. I wish you the best of luck! My exit plan took a long time. I know it's hard.
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Post by h on Mar 6, 2019 22:26:45 GMT -5
Maybe. Some dead guy. I saw it on the internet, and, everything on the internet is true according to Calvin Coolidge. Kennedy. And Coolidge was a pathological liar. And the internet didn't exist under Coolidge... I think that was the point.🤣
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Post by flounder on Mar 7, 2019 19:54:12 GMT -5
Kennedy. And Coolidge was a pathological liar. And the internet didn't exist under Coolidge... I think that was the point.🤣 See,he lied about the internet too. Can’t trust the guy.
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