Folks I need to buy some time. I’ve been thinking about exit plans and this goddamn marriage for so long I can barely function. Concentrating on my professional work isn’t helping. In fact, I can’t concentrate on my work b/c I can’t fucking stop thinking about all this bullshit all of the fucking time.
I need some better distractions. Jogging thru the ‘hood helps, but I need other ideas.
I am pretty sure that Brother h posted a thread a while back concerning "distractions" and it attracted a lot of traffic including lots of suggestions. Maybe if you looked up his past threads you might pick it up.
Addendum.Just found it. Author was Brother h . Thread is called "Looking For Ways To Cope" posted April 2017. There are 9 pages of comments.
I’m really sorry you’re in this spot. I don’t know your story very well or if you have an exit plan. But I can tell you one thing, the only thing that took my constant rumination over my marriage away was leaving. I cannot tell you what a huge weight lifted from my shoulders and how much energy and mind space was freed once I no longer had to agonize over my tortured marriage. In fact, I didn’t even realize just how much it consumed me until it was finally over. I am so grateful not to be constantly thinking about it anymore. I have so much more energy and joy for life.
What I've been trying to do is stop thinking about my Husband and start focusing fully on me ... what I want each day, doing something that makes me happy and healthy each day. I also take a break from this forum every so often to truly get the SM off my radar for a while. I'm finding with each little stint focused on me, I feel stronger and more clear mentally the next time I revisit the issue. I can't change my husband so focusing on him puts all my power into an empty well. I can change me, so I'm pouring my energy into me and fueling up for whatever my final decision on my SM will be. Good luck.
Maybe. Some dead guy. I saw it on the internet, and, everything on the internet is true according to Calvin Coolidge.
Memorizing USA Presidents would be a good distraction - or Australian Prime Ministers. "The one who wore a silly hat" "The bloke with the mullet" "The wheelchair bloke" "The guy who's missus was a real honey" "That bloke that got shot" "The rangar sheila"
Post by angeleyes65 on Mar 6, 2019 20:16:24 GMT -5
I just put myself in the mind set that he was a roommate. I ran errands on my way home from work. Worked out when I got home. And played games on my phone or read while waiting for bedtime. Cleaned and did things with my friends or kids on weekends. I also out sourced and talked online to him that helped a lit but not for everyone I know. I wish you the best of luck! My exit plan took a long time. I know it's hard.
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5