Post by greatcoastal on Mar 5, 2019 10:11:32 GMT -5
When someone tells you after getting married, " I know marriage gives you the right to sharing your body with mine, but.....I refuse to share mine with you, and you have to accept it. " (take it or leave it)
What seems to be missing is the " take it or leave it" aspect. Those words are not spoken. For me, when someone gives me an ultimatum like that, I find it arrogant and condescending. In fact it makes it even easier to say , " no thank you! I'll go somewhere else."
Kind of like buying a car. You liked the style the make, and the year. It was overpriced, but you figured " surely the price would come down some." Everyone expects their to be some negotiating. But then they start upping the price even more by listing all these dealer fees.
Dealer fees are like manipulative control from a refuser. You are expected to do all the compromising. They are dictating how you are supposed to feel, because you think you "love" that car.
Meanwhile, down the street at another dealer is the same make, model, and color, only it's lower priced, less miles and two years newer, with no added fees, They will even lower the price! I've experienced this , I think we all have. The hardest part is " are you willing to take the risk? To wait ?
It's also like putting more quarters in the empty coke machine. Are you willing to go find another machine?