I used to work with a guy who did not drink. It was a real mans industry with a heavy drinking culture. He would come out and drink his orange juice. He never explained, he never justified. He ploughed his own furrow. Why explain or justify your reasons for dancing?
Post by angeleyes65 on Feb 21, 2019 20:34:09 GMT -5
I'm glad you found other options. I love to dance. I go out at least a couple of nights a month. I don't have your confidence to go out alone. I go with a friend. I will dance alone though. Have a blast!
I'm at the club. The dance floor is empty and I'm dancing for everyone who wishes he/she were here! lol! Empty dance floors don't bother me. My band is in the house and there's no one to bump into! It's music therapy time! 💃💃💃🎶🎵
Rhapsodee, I hope you don't mind me stepping out of bounds.
I hate to think of you in that prison you seem to keep yourself in. You started making a connection and then crushed it because of .... I'm not sure why. What a horrid way to live. Seems like you're torturing yourself. Without connection. We're social creatures, and you've always struck me as being more active, healthy, and even social than the average. Way More? Heck, you're out dancing!
I'm not suggesting you need to have an affair, but connecting with a man won't hurt you. Particularly if you keep it honest and simple.
When someone shows interest in you and asks if you're single, just tell them:
I'm married, but my husband is a dick, No, that's wrong.
I'm married, but my husband has been laid up in a nursing home for 30 years. That's a lie.
Yes, I am married, but my husband doesn't feel compelled to share interests or activities with me. He's not caring enough to even mind me out here dancing and talking with you. Care to dance? This explains the circumstance simply and honestly. It will likely prevent the complicated stuff you don't want, while allowing the connection that I think you need as a human being.
@creelunion, no you’re not stepping out of bounds. I thank for your supportive words.
I live within set boundaries but I don’t feel it is a prison. I think I’m keeping a level head. I don’t want to burn any bridges.
I’m keeping myself fit and healthy and ready for whatever comes my way. If my life should suddenly change, I don’t want to be caught unprepared. I have established a social network of both single and married people. I have activities I enjoy.
When I’m out dancing or hiking, and I’m asked why I’m out without my husband, I tell them he doesn’t mind that I go out dancing and hiking without him. We have an agreement
- I will return home every night. - I can flirt but not “test drive”. - I will go where I say I’m going and stay there.
I do get hit on a lot. I don’t break rule #1. Never get sexually involved with anyone you socialize with. People talk. You never know who knows who.
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