Post by mypaintbrushes on Feb 9, 2019 17:09:38 GMT -5
If this is you, I can say, I equivocally, if your marriage is as bad as mine was, the answer is YES.
I have support from:
My mom My brother and sister in law My teenager All my coworkers who know My boss (he and H have a mutual friend) Long time friends Newer friends Some of H’s friends
This is not to say that no one is supporting him. In fact, when we served him the papers, my mom made a point of saying, “I support both of you!” My brother patted him on yeh shoulder and said, “Just breathe man” (or something like that) and my SIL calmly and patiently explained the paperwork to him. He still expresses concern that he’s “no longer part of the family” and won’t be allowed at holidays, etc. and I’m like “Have you MET my family?”
That is a pretty handy looking support network Sister mypaintbrushes .
But generally, apart from those closest to (and immediately affected by) the situation, people will devote several minutes to thinking about and discussing your situation before tuning in to "Canada's Funniest Dogs".
Post by choosinghappy on Feb 9, 2019 20:56:34 GMT -5
One of the biggest things I had to overcome when deciding to leave my SM was being ok with losing his side of the family. Some of them I was closer with than my own family so that was a huge negative for me.
As it turns out, it was an unfounded fear. Every single one of them texted me when they found out we were splitting to say they were so sorry to hear and that they loved me and supported me. My mother in law (who I’m very close to) is still firmly in my life and we talk multiple times a week and see each other occasionally, and my sisters in law and I still text. Really, the only family I “lost” was the side of the family I never really liked anyway! I also didn’t lose any friends or any of my support group, just the dead weight of my H.
Post by mypaintbrushes on Feb 10, 2019 1:04:02 GMT -5
I have never really developed a relationship with any of my in-laws. ANY! I think I’m pretty easy to get along with, so what the hell? I guess I won’t be losing any of them since there was never a relationship to begin with. They don’t even really know my son. He’s almost 16 and I remind him, periodically, that he has another grandma in Oregon.
My first husband and I split after only two years and no kids. I am still close to his family. His mom refers to me as her “first daughter” (ex is remarried). His cousins and I talk all the time. His dad was one in a million.
If all that weren’t enough, my ex’s parents actually BABYSAT for H and me once when our son was a baby. Definitely a supportive family!
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5