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Post by idgaf96 on Feb 11, 2019 12:25:09 GMT -5
I spent years trying to get my husband to look at me and want me. I had let myself go pretty bad. Then I lost 100lbs. I was looking really good. I rode my bike about 200+ miles a week and had a sexy hard ass. He only noticed when I wore something he thought was silly. Then he'd make fun of my outfit.
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 11, 2019 12:42:06 GMT -5
I spent years trying to get my husband to look at me and want me. I had let myself go pretty bad. Then I lost 100lbs. I was looking really good. I rode my bike about 200+ miles a week and had a sexy hard ass. He only noticed when I wore something he thought was silly. Then he'd make fun of my outfit. 1) It's really sad how people abuse others. 2) It's also sad how people ( me included) allow it to happen, all in the name of marriage.
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 11, 2019 13:15:33 GMT -5
GC said: "idgaf96 Avatar 46 minutes ago idgaf96 said: I spent years trying to get my husband to look at me and want me. I had let myself go pretty bad. Then I lost 100lbs. I was looking really good. I rode my bike about 200+ miles a week and had a sexy hard ass. He only noticed when I wore something he thought was silly. Then he'd make fun of my outfit. 1) It's really sad how people abuse others.
2) It's also sad how people ( me included) allow it to happen, all in the name of marriage.
Yep. BTDT. I remember exercising 2 hours a day and losing 35 pounds so when I reunited with my refuser, who was temporarily working in another country, he would find me sexy. I looked so good that even though I was 50, I had to ask my teen son to walk down the street with me to keep strange men from trying to pick me up
My refuser's response to my transformation: Nothing!
About 10 years later, I started dating post SM lover, the guy I've now been with 6 years. The first time we made love, after I took off my clothes, he told me what a beautiful body I have. He continues to tell me that every day even though I'm certainly not as young or shapely as I was 16 years ago.
It's not worth it to try to transform oneself to attract one's refuser. If you choose to lose weight or work out, do it for you. The right person will love and lust after you as you are.
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Post by carl on Feb 11, 2019 21:11:21 GMT -5
Yup I tried improving my physique too. I was never much to look at but I got myself pretty muscular - water off a ducks back. Never blinked an eyelid. Felt worse knowing that even my worked out body was of no interest.
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Post by solodriver on Feb 11, 2019 21:40:39 GMT -5
Mt wife's "below parts" are so cold, when she spreads her legs, a light comes on!
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Post by deadzone75 on Feb 11, 2019 22:46:23 GMT -5
For some it's jeans. My weakness are tight yoga pants...as tight as you can get them. My wife will wear them when she does her Just Dance workout. Sometimes she'll do it when I'm reading on the couch...and that's as close as I come to getting some.
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Post by ironhamster on Feb 12, 2019 2:30:36 GMT -5
No matter what shape I was in, my wife never seemed attracted to me. On the other hand, I never lost interest in her no matter what shape she was in. That went on until I finally woke up.
She had a bra I liked. It supported her breasts just the way they needed to be. Eventually, it wore out, and the search for similar bras to replace it with never happened. In hindsight, it is just one more example of her lack of interest in me.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2019 19:57:04 GMT -5
I saw some of my husband's porn once, a long time back. They were older, significantly heavier women than I was. I thought, maybe I'm too thin for him and that's why he doesn't want me? So I let go a little of the strict diet I had been following, padded up a bit, and still nothing. The only thing that changed was I hated the way I looked and felt. Now, 3 years later, I'm still struggling to get the weight off. Chasing the "why" will truly make one insane.
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Post by flounder on Feb 12, 2019 20:19:54 GMT -5
Mt wife's "below parts" are so cold, when she spreads her legs, a light comes on! I will never look at a gallon of milk the same way ever again.
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Post by solodriver on Feb 12, 2019 21:17:22 GMT -5
Well, I know a place it won't spoil.
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