Post by hopingforachange on Feb 4, 2019 20:00:25 GMT -5
I'm beginning to believe mine has turned around. But it took me being willing to end it. There was no bluff, I was going to move into the basement and start the process. But she wanted to go thru counseling and I was willing to give her a chance to change.
Now, it hasn't been easy on my part either, there were things that I needed to fix as well.
The sex life is ok, I don't ever think it will be as adventurous as I want it to be. There is love and intimacy on the touch and it is not starfish or zombie sex
My marriage was in the better end of the spectrum when I joined, there was sex happening but it's she was doing it out of a wife's duty. It was on the same level as needing to mop the kitchen floor.
For those that are reading this and hoping it could be me, and hoping your marriage can turn around to. You need to know that, your partner needed to decided that they need to change. You can't make them, they have to choose to change, this is not something you can make happen in your own. The only thing you can do is decided, you are done with the status quo and lay your cards on the table for your partner to see. Don't even think about bluffing, they will call that hand and take the pot.
Over the years (EP and now this group) I have not seen too many stories along the lines - "I am in an ILIASM deal but it is turning around" or "I was in an ILIASM deal but turned it around" There have been such posts that I recall - credible ones too - but boy are they rare. I can recall a few, erring on the plus side, mebbe 10 (over the past 9 years).
Another type of story seldom seen is a post along the lines - "I got out of my ILIASM deal and it was a really bad choice which has made me even unhappier" These are REALLY rare. I can't actually remember seeing one.
Have you sighted any of these rare posts ?
Most everyone I was closest to on EP myself and my bf included left our marriages and are happy. Everyone had there reset sex story but none lasted more than a couple of weeks. I think part of the reason you don't hear too many turn around stories is the resentment eventually makes it to where you no longer care to fix it. Things are so awkward.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
Apr 25, 2019 20:10:25 GMT -5
h: The videos posted aren't attached. They are links to videos outside the site.
Apr 26, 2019 14:09:04 GMT -5
sexlessinga: Hi guys just joined
May 10, 2019 20:49:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: @mslowmaintenance….long time no see, welcome back...
May 29, 2019 9:30:25 GMT -5
noregretz: You can never outrun a Grizzly bear, but that's ok. You only have to outrun the person you're with....
Jun 15, 2019 12:28:09 GMT -5
solodriver: or in this case your refuser.
Jun 16, 2019 19:21:47 GMT -5