Post by hopingforachange on Feb 4, 2019 20:00:25 GMT -5
I'm beginning to believe mine has turned around. But it took me being willing to end it. There was no bluff, I was going to move into the basement and start the process. But she wanted to go thru counseling and I was willing to give her a chance to change.
Now, it hasn't been easy on my part either, there were things that I needed to fix as well.
The sex life is ok, I don't ever think it will be as adventurous as I want it to be. There is love and intimacy on the touch and it is not starfish or zombie sex
My marriage was in the better end of the spectrum when I joined, there was sex happening but it's she was doing it out of a wife's duty. It was on the same level as needing to mop the kitchen floor.
For those that are reading this and hoping it could be me, and hoping your marriage can turn around to. You need to know that, your partner needed to decided that they need to change. You can't make them, they have to choose to change, this is not something you can make happen in your own. The only thing you can do is decided, you are done with the status quo and lay your cards on the table for your partner to see. Don't even think about bluffing, they will call that hand and take the pot.
Over the years (EP and now this group) I have not seen too many stories along the lines - "I am in an ILIASM deal but it is turning around" or "I was in an ILIASM deal but turned it around" There have been such posts that I recall - credible ones too - but boy are they rare. I can recall a few, erring on the plus side, mebbe 10 (over the past 9 years).
Another type of story seldom seen is a post along the lines - "I got out of my ILIASM deal and it was a really bad choice which has made me even unhappier" These are REALLY rare. I can't actually remember seeing one.
Have you sighted any of these rare posts ?
Most everyone I was closest to on EP myself and my bf included left our marriages and are happy. Everyone had there reset sex story but none lasted more than a couple of weeks. I think part of the reason you don't hear too many turn around stories is the resentment eventually makes it to where you no longer care to fix it. Things are so awkward.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: The add attachment says a max of 1mb...I see plenty of videos that are way longer than that...how do I do that? My video is 4.97 mbs
Apr 25, 2019 20:10:25 GMT -5