Yet another talk Jan 12, 2019 9:35:13 GMT -5 via mobile
Post by smith227 on Jan 12, 2019 9:35:13 GMT -5
It’s been a few weeks since the last time my husband threw me a bone and decided I’m sure as a last resort he needed to get off. It’s so routine I can call t at this point. He starts showing me a tiny bit of attention. For example, last night when he come home from work he sat a little closer to me on the sofa and actually wanted to talk to me while he played his video games. At one point he patted my shoulder and that’s when I was done. I calmly and rationally told him I knew the routine and evidently it was time for us to have sex for a couple minutes tonight between video games and internet. He of course flew off the handle. I told him if he’d like to discuss this with me I’d love to have that conversation. I also reminded him that we’ve had this conversation several times and that I’ve told him I need the love and affection in order to have the sex that would normally come along with it and he’s done nothing to change it. I also told him that I do love him and I want to be with him, but I have to also think of myself and can handle only so much rejection within my own marriage. So, it told him that I was trying to find ways to sustain the relationship without physical intimacy, bc I do want to be with him. And instead of walking around pissed off and accusing him of being withholding, I was trying to understand if he is repulsed by physical contact, how to deal with that on my end as his wife. I said all of this in a calm loving tone. I was met with a “fuck off” and told that I just try to make everything miserable all the time. I was told that it was “fine” and that we could just be “pals”. This is a man that never touches me. This is a man that never kisses me. This is a man that if I accidentally roll close to him in bed I’m asked to immediately move. This is a man who turns me over for a couple minutes every couple of months and only touches me with his penis and thinks that constitutes a romantic relationship. And when I’m trying to understand and have a conversation with him, a conversation we’ve had many times before. A conversation that I’m now trying to turn into understanding why he is the way he is, and trying to find solutions to not change him but find a way to deal with it and work around it. Yet, I’m told to fuck off and then he shuts down. I can’t win.