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Post by Handy on Dec 25, 2018 15:54:33 GMT -5
5 Principles for Making Better Life Decisions by Mark Manson 15:46
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Post by baza on Dec 26, 2018 20:09:18 GMT -5
I am a big fan of Mark Manson. Unfortunately (and this is just me) I can follow the points he makes very readily when he is writing (like in his book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck") but not so much when he is speaking.
There's good stuff in this clip - particularly the concept of making fully informed choices now (that may not have any instant gratification or immediate pay off), based on your longer term best interests.
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Post by Handy on Dec 26, 2018 21:28:00 GMT -5
Baza, like most books, the basic content seems easy to follow and impliment but when it comes to trying that implimentation with another person involved, it doesn't seem that easy or simple. What I liked was the ides of "not fooling yourself" because I know I can get fired up about doing something that at first seems simple but down the road a bit, it starts to get complicated, then it falls apart.
I have several relationship type books that I have read and the advice sounds simple while I am reading the book but with an uncooperative spouse, simple goes out the window. Maybe my problem is I care a bit too much and maybe I should read about not giving a F. I am guessing not giving a F would make it a lot easier.
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Post by WindSister on Dec 27, 2018 8:53:43 GMT -5
Baza, like most books, the basic content seems easy to follow and impliment but when it comes to trying that implimentation with another person involved, it doesn't seem that easy or simple. What I liked was the ides of "not fooling yourself" because I know I can get fired up about doing something that at first seems simple but down the road a bit, it starts to get complicated, then it falls apart.
I have about 20 relationship type books that I have read and the advice sounds simple while I am reading the book but with an uncooperative spouse, simple goes out the window. Maybe my problem is I care a bit too much and maybe I should read about not giving a F. I am guessing not giving a F would make it a lot easier.
Not giving a F doesn't mean you stop caring and no, it doesn't make things easier, per se. It means you accept "what is" and stop fighting reality. Stop forcing. Stop trying to manipulate reality to be what you think it "should" be. That's when we suffer most. That's when we struggle most.
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Post by Handy on Dec 27, 2018 18:44:25 GMT -5
WS Not giving a F doesn't mean you stop caring and no, it doesn't make things easier, per se.
It means you accept "what is" and stop fighting reality. Stop forcing. Stop trying to manipulate reality to be what you think it "should" be.
Thank you. Now maybe i don't have to read the book or watch his videos.
I do this with one guy friend. It works!!!!
A little more difficult to do if you live with a person, but then again some people move on and emotionally leave the person they are or were living with.
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Post by baza on Dec 27, 2018 21:04:06 GMT -5
Mansons' position is that you need to be discerning concerning "what" you give a f*ck about.
Don't waste your f*cks on things you can't control.
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Post by Handy on Dec 27, 2018 23:54:37 GMT -5
Baza Don't waste your f*cks on things you can't control.This sort of goes along with some dating advice I read a long time ago. If the new person in your life isn't in the F yes category, don't rule out other potential dates. This goes along with NorthStarMom's thread, "Start letting go of those not ready to love you. iliasm.org/thread/4976/start-letting-ready-love
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Post by baza on Mar 19, 2019 23:26:32 GMT -5
It is applicable to all sorts of aspects of life.
Let's say adopting a value of "feeling good". There are many ways of achieving this. Here's 2. #1 - you take up going to the gym. There is practically no immediate pay off for doing this, but if you stick with it, then longer term it is very likely to pay off big time in your health and fitness and you "feeling good".
#2 - you take up smoking crystal meth. There is a big pay off immediately for doing this, you'll feel invincible for a while. But if you stick with it, then longer term it is probably going to trash your health, finances, friends and family.
Short term pain for long term gain. Long term pain for short term gain.
Choices.
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Post by Handy on Jun 14, 2019 12:47:05 GMT -5
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Post by Handy on Jun 29, 2019 2:07:58 GMT -5
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Post by fulach on Jul 10, 2021 9:05:26 GMT -5
It is really valuable information about life from Mark Manson. He always explains life perfectly that make us take a good decision on life. This is also no exception to this. Thank you, Mark Manson, to always help us through our lifetime and help us and thanks for sharing. Virtual Assistant
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Post by catlover on Jul 10, 2021 11:04:57 GMT -5
A few variations on this theme that all basically mean the same thing. Don't sweat the small stuff", etc, to me though, my personal favourite, is the "serenity prayer" (no, I'm not a religous nutbar);
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"
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Post by jerri on Sept 1, 2021 3:34:38 GMT -5
I totally agree -most "untrained/crappy dogs", if there is such a hound, are only as smart as their owners.
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