Post by caballotierra on Dec 23, 2018 20:28:32 GMT -5
Perhaps not the best writing skills, but I definitely relate with the sentiment.
Although, the longer I am moving through the divorce process, the less I trust people who seem to know who my wife is, or why she acts the way she does. It is so hot and cold. And it's always been that way for the two of us. The difference now is that the swings are much more exaggerated, and the cold overwhelms—BY FAR—any warmth. But after being partnered with her for 12 years, I still can't really explain what makes her tick or why she shuts me out. I wish I knew, because then maybe there would be a solution.
I do agree, though. It's not even being shut out sexually. It's the emotional and empathetic abandonment. And the persistent feelings of rejection that come with it. I feel I will be dealing with those for a long time.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
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Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5